The reasons for my joining a network for preventing Child sexual Abuse were to know and understand how a child is sexually abused, learn the ways to prevent it and steps to take if a case like this happens. From whatever I have been learning and experiencing ever since then, completely changed my outlook towards life. It was something I could never imagine even in my nightmare.
Unfortunately, many of us are living with this nightmare, many of us have grown up with this nightmare.
The abuse itself is frightful and causes a traumatic effect on the victim. When the victim is a child, it’s more terrible. The worst of this is Child sexual Abuse. The sexual organs of a child are not fully developed which makes it quite difficult for a child to understand the dynamics of sexuality.
Child sexual Abuse is rampant all over the world.
In most of these cases, the predators are either parents or older sibling or relatives or belong to those adults who can come in the vicinity of the child like a teacher or a friend’s parent. It’s frightening to even think what the child goes through or how can the parent or an adult torture the little one or what are the things a child is made to see.
The world is not a fairy-land anymore. The sweet world of innocence and candies and ‘all that is beautiful’ is destroyed. It haunts them all through their lives; it’s as if they are held responsible for what happened. They can’t be themselves anymore.
The child loses focus on studies; stops taking interest in something the child enjoyed, perhaps a sport or a music. The child starts avoiding friends and peers; that one little corner of the room becomes the only place of solace. It’s something the child fails to express and explain.
No matter what, the child can’t get over with it.
They are ashamed of what others will think of them. They feel that they will be bullied as losers if the incident is revealed. They live in constant fears of what the society will think of them, of getting abused again.
It’s not the child’s trauma alone. If the parent or the parents come to know about it, or if the family comes to know about it, they too become petrified. Most people are not aware of the measures one should take when a child is sexually abused.
Most of the people think that if it is kept secret, the child will be safe. But this is absolutely a wrong notion. It actually makes the child more vulnerable and the predator stronger. It helps the predator take advantage of the situation and increases the risk of repeated attacks.
Also, the predator gets the liberty to abuse other children too. It inflicts a great damage on the psyche of the child; the trauma stays with the child as the child grows up. As an adult who has been sexually abused as a child, it is a pain to live with; the traumatic impact lingers all through the person’s life guiding the person’s professional and personal life.
So, don’t just stay silent. You need to report it. Here are 5 reasons for you to understand why you should reveal child sexual abuse:
(1) You are being controlled by your predator if you remain silent:
Remaining silent is not a wise decision if you have been abused. It means you are allowing your predator to control you. If you remain silent, your predator will roam around freely without guilt. This makes you vulnerable and also other children vulnerable.
You must remember that your predator is bound to look for other victims. Speaking out is not a sign of weakness. It’s okay to ask for help when we really need it. So, when you are speaking about your abuse, you are actually speaking for a hundred others who might get abused by your predator.
(2) Others will understand that your problems are effects of the abuse:
How many times have you been blamed for showing a lack of self-confidence? How many times have you been blamed for being an introvert and not socially active? How many times have you been blamed for not trusting someone and for always being judgmental about each and everything?