6 Ways To Build Emotional Resilience and become Unfuckwithable

6 Ways To Build Emotional Resilience

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Being at either extreme of completely co-dependent and completely isolated will cripple your emotional resilience. If you need to latch onto other people for everything, because you can’t walk alone, you’re just leeching off the resilience of others. But if you have no support, or you’re unwilling to get it, you will erode and break down from the inside out much faster. This often leads to self-destruction, in one form or another (ie. serious addiction, substance abuse, or suicide.)

2. Taking a bird’s eye view

In hard moments, you need to be able to zoom out and see the bigger picture. This isn’t about avoiding having to confront the difficulties and emotions at the moment. It’s basically remembering that “this too shall pass.” You know that everything is temporary – both the good and the bad.

This higher perspective is also part of what enables you to learn and create takeaways from adversity. In certain situations, you can see what could have been done differently to prevent something bad from happening. In others, you can see the way forward, understand what you’re about to learn, and how you’re going to be stronger for it.

3. Determination/Grit

This is your propeller. Without something inside of you pushing you forward, it’s easy to buckle under any pressure from life. Determination, or grit, implies an inner wanting to push back, to move forward and succeed. In essence, it is your will. Your will to live; your will to fight; your will to get back up and endure. Strong will power is a symptom of the next trait on the list…

4. Belief in yourself

believe in yourself

Having the fundamental belief that you are capable and valuable will carry you through so much of life’s hardships. What causes people to snap in the face of adversity, or being reduced to a blubbering mess, is clutching onto thoughts like: “I can’t handle this,” or “It’s not worth it.”

Believing that you CAN, that you matter, and life itself matters, brings a sense of importance that you have to figure out how to stick around and thrive. It creates that internal drive and determination to do whatever it takes to make it through. Building your capability and self-confidence is one of the biggest components of emotional resilience, which we’ll talk about in a moment.

5. Positivity

I’m not talking about Karen in HR, who skips into the office with her sugar-sweet, bubbly voice, announcing there are cupcakes in the break room because “it looks like everyone’s got a ‘case of the Mondays.’”

Positivity isn’t about shooting rainbows out of your ass. It’s about being able to see the upside in anything. Rather than marveling at what a shit sandwich you’ve been handed, you choose to recognize how the different aspects of it are going to make you grow, or challenge core parts of yourself.

Positivity allows you to see the gift in every challenge. It allows you to remember the inherent beauty and gift of life, even when you’re dealing with what seems like the ugliest parts of it.

So much of this world is steeped in negativity. It’s in the news that’s being pushed at you every day. And the horrendously small-minded, disrespectful blabbering and gossip that make up most of the social media and they lay-person’s small talk. Having a self-sustaining source of positivity established deep within yourself keeps you focused on the Truth, and on what matters, which is your health, success, and happiness.

Related: Buddha Quotes To Rejuvenate You With Positivity

6. Humour

Having the ability to laugh at life and yourself will keep you alive. The fact that we’re all here, living this crazy experiment called civilization, and same-day shipping butt plugs to our doorsteps – it’s absolutely absurd. People who recognize this fundamental ridiculousness have lighter spirits, even in the darkest of times. They giggle at their minds and fuck ups, and how funny life can be.

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