Mindfulness is a complete mind and body awareness practice where you bring your focus to the present moment. In Buddhism, being mindful can be as easy as taking a few meditative breaths and bringing your awareness to it. It can completely change the way you think and live your life. You’ll know what I mean when you experience it for yourself.
“Meditation brings wisdom; lack of mediation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what hold you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.” – Gautama Buddha
Meditation is a crucial part of Buddhism and is one of the core components of the Noble Eight-fold Path. Having practiced meditation for the last 3 years, I can personally guarantee that it can be one of the most calming yet invigorating experiences you’ll ever have. To put it simply, meditation is the simple practice of conscious breathing where you bring all your awareness to your breath. When thoughts and emotions arise while you’re meditating, you simply acknowledge them and let them pass, instead of holding on to them or avoiding them.
Meditation enables you to be mindful and find peace within yourself. It helps you practice letting go of attachments and desires. In its core, meditation is letting go of what is most important to your life: your breath. As you breathe in one moment, you breathe out the very next. Have you ever considered holding on to a breath? Have you ever become attached or clinged on to a breath? No. It is only by letting go of your breath, you make space for the next one to come in and replenish your body, mind and soul. It is the same with life.
4. Be compassionate
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama
The only way to end your suffering and letting go of a relationship is by letting go of desire. But when you are attached to what you desire, how can you let it go? By creating a heart full of love and compassion that will light the darkness inside you. Compassion allows you to understand what your partner is going through and what they are feeling. It enables you to understand their suffering.
Compassion begins with looking inside. Not only do you show kindness to the other person, you also analyze your own emotions and responses. This will help you to be a kinder and self loving person. When you love yourself, you expect less from others and take charge for how you feel. You become less insecure and more confident in yourself. You become bigger than your desire as your inner love and peace fills your heart and soul. Compassion helps you realize that your partner is suffering as much as you are. Hence, your unhealthy attachment and desire becomes less important.
5. Develop an expansiveness mind
“Listen to your gut. Are decisions more expansive or narrowing?” – Marne Levine
All the Buddhist beliefs and practices I mentioned above will shift your mindset from being insecure and afraid to being abundant and expansive. As you take responsibility for yourself and love yourself unconditionally, your narrow mind will move away from the stories you tell yourself and compel you to take a look at the bigger picture. Your mind will give less value to these unhealthy desires and attachments as you will become more focused on building your own life, finding your purpose and attaining spiritual enlightenment.
6. Let things be
“When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.” – Peace Pilgrim
Becoming a bigger person requires you to stop trying to control people and situations according to how you desire them to be. It requires you to realize that you can ONLY control yourself and no one else. You can ONLY control your own thoughts, emotions and responses and that can be the greatest challenge and achievement of your life.