Not playing the victim will help to break up for good work this time! Furthermore, if you are the one leaving this relationship, keeping those reasons in mind daily going forward will help you stay strong.
Keep that list close and refer to it when you are missing your ex. And keep the list close in case they come back, begging for forgiveness.
3. Make Yourself A Priority.
Ok, so you are single again and you suddenly find yourself with lots of free time. And you might also find yourself craving a lot of ice cream. Now is not the time to sit around, watching Netflix, and eating ice cream. While those things might be fun at the moment, in the long run, they will only make you feel worse.
The best thing that you can do for yourself right now is to get off the couch and take care of yourself. When you are going through a hard time, the number one thing that can make you feel better is the endorphins that are created through exercise. Those chemicals will actually make you feel very different from the sad and lonely person you might feel like right now.
You don’t have to join a gym. Get out there and walk, go dancing, do some yoga. Whatever you can do to keep your heart rate up! Furthermore, if you get enough sleep and eat well, your body will feel strong and it will help with your healing.
And, best of all, taking care of yourself will make you look hot, way hotter than you might look if you only indulged in Netflix and ice cream. And looking good is an excellent way to win your breakup. Imagine the look on your next guy’s face when he sees you next!
4. Go Big.
Another thing to do with all of that free time is to start doing something that you have always wanted to do. Don’t sit around feeling sorry for your empty space – do something with it.
When my husband left me, I was devastated. One of the things that gave me hope was the list that I had made of all the things that I had always wanted to do but hadn’t done. I had always wanted to hike in Peru, to learn to drive a Jet-ski, to live in NYC, to talk about mental illness, to start a coaching business. I had never done any of those things because I was unhappily married and consumed with that.
One by one, I did these things. 10 years later life is good, I am strong and I am happy. And I have had lots of amazing adventures.
What is it that you have always wanted to do?
Pick one thing and start doing it. You have free time now. Don’t waste it!
5. Reconnect With Old Friends…And Make New Ones.
For many of us, relationships mean that we disconnect with people who might previously have been a big part of our lives. None of us do it intentionally, or with malice, but it does happen. And those friends are still out there.
Make an effort to reach out to those friends, the friends who knew you ‘before.’ They will be happy to have you back and happy to support you get through this time.
Also, now is a great time to make new friends. I have a client who is using Bumble BFF, an app for women to connect with other women, to find some new friends, ones who are single and want to get out and do things as she does. She has connected with some amazing women in just a few weeks.