Now that you know what boundaries looking like we can address why establishing boundaries before marriage is important for a healthy one.
#1 – It helps you know if you are compatible.
Establishing boundaries before you are married is important because, in doing so, you will understand whether or not you are compatible.
In spite of what many women believe, things won’t change when you get married – habits and behaviors that exist pre-marriage will carry over into marriage
If you try to establish boundaries after marriage, and you don’t agree on the how or why of them, then you will be stuck with someone who spending your life with might be difficult. Love is important in marriage but it only goes so far.
So, talk to your partner and spend some time defining your boundaries. Doing so will allow you both to confirm that this marriage is the right choice for you.
#2 – You’ve been practicing.
If you work on establishing boundaries before marriage, when you actually get married you will have been practicing those boundaries, learning what works and what doesn’t. You will have established behaviors and practices that work for both of you, that keep you happier together.
So, when the wedding is over and the birdseed has been thrown, you can feel confident that you can ride off into the sunset together, knowing what is important to both of you and that you both can do the work!
#3 – You are a team.
After marriage comes extended family and babies. Having established boundaries will help you stay strong as a couple while facing these challenges.
Extended families are wonderful and sometimes not so much. Traditions that have been established in one family sometimes don’t work in other families. Mother-in-laws mean well but can be interfering. Babies completely rock your world in so many ways.
If you have a truly strong bond that is the result of the boundaries that you have established, you will have a much better chance of riding out those challenges together.
Establishing boundaries before marriage is a key part building a strong bond between the two of you.
I know that we all think that we have found our soul mate and best friend and that nothing can possibly come between us but the reality is is that marriage is long and hard and it takes work.
If you know what to expect from, and of, each other before you are married then you will have a much better chance of truly being happy.