Recovering from narcissistic and emotional abuse can seem like an ordeal of the most grievous kind.Read More
Board: Wake Up from Abuse
Why is it that empaths and narcissists – two diametrically opposed types of people – feel an almost magnetic pull towards each other? There are many theories, but at the heart of it, I believe that it is Life’s way of restoring balance.Read More
The Secret Language of Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths: How Abusers Manipulate and Traumatize Their Victims
The Secret Language of Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths: How Emotional Predators and Abusers Manipulate Their Victims by Shahida Arabi Society assumes that everyone has a conscience and the ability to empathize. In fact, 1 in 25 people in the United States are estimated to be sociopaths, according to Harvard psychologist Martha Stout. Narcissists (those who meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and their like-minded cousins, sociopaths and psychopaths, speak in the language of crazymaking, of projection, of word salad, of gaslighting and of pathological envy. While I will be focusing on narcissistic abusers in this post, keep in mind that all...Read More
Being a trauma survivor is a challenging journey, but it is also an empowering one.
Here are some tips that I’ve lived by that can benefit the healing journey of those who have been through trauma and abuse.
Anger and abuse in relationships begin with blame: “I feel bad, and it’s your fault.”Read More
There’s a lot of buzz in the media these days about Empaths/Highly Sensitives and Narcissists attracting to one another. One popular theory is that Narcissists prey on Empaths and Sensitives because of their overly giving nature. While that is primarily true, there is another reason that goes even deeper, and it has to do with ego.Read More
When they’re feeling threatened or bored, psychopaths will often use what’s called “word salad” in an attempt to keep your mind occupied. Basically, it’s a conversation from hell. They aren’t actually saying anything at all. They’re just talking at you. Before you can even respond to one outrageous statement, they’re already on to the next. You’ll be left with your head spinning. Study the warning signs, and disengage before any damage can be done:Read More
I’m a strong believer in reading whatever you want to read and watching whatever you want to watch. With that freedom, I’m also a strong believer in the freedom of discourse. For example, I was hoping to see The Imitation Game this coming weekend, but it turns out I can’t because Fifty Shades of Grey will be taking up every theater for its Valentine’s Day release. So now that I know I’ll be spending the weekend stacking things on my cat, I figured this would be a nice time for some discourse. I don’t really want to spend this...Read More
Jim takes what he wants at a dinner party without thinking whether there is enough left for everyone else. He marches ahead of his date when they enter a restaurant. He tells endless stories about his work accomplishments and childhood experiences on a first date. Question: Is Jim self-centered or narcissistic? Many professionals think of narcissism, like many other mental-health issues on a continuum. And while truly narcissistic people are certainly self-centered, are self-centered people truly narcissistic? Not necessarily. Here are 4 major indicators: 1. Focus on self. Surely, by definition self-centered people are, well, self-centered. Research tells us that those...Read More
Do you think you can’t leave your abusive partner? Do you feel hopeless when you return to a relationship filled with pain? Or, do you dwell on your toxic ex and struggle to stay away? Then you may be caught in a carefully crafted trauma bond – but you don’t need to be Houdini to escape. What is trauma bonding? Traumatic-bonding is an intense attachment to your abuser. It happens when you feel emotionally and physically dependent upon a dominant partner – who dishes out abuse and rewards so you believe that he’s all-powerful. “powerful emotional attachments are seen...Read More
The scars are internal. When it comes to abusive relationships, it isn’t always just physical abuse. While this isn’t meant to detract from the issue of domestic abuse that far too many men/women have suffered (and still suffer), it’s to address the fact that emotional abuse can be just as damaging, but in completely different ways. When you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s not always noticeable right away. You don’t bear the bruises of a physical attack, but you’re still scarred in many ways, and that scarring leaves an imprint that can affect every future relationship. It’s hard...Read More