3. You get rid of toxic people
Although you may feel like you don’t belong in your own family and end up feeling isolated and lonely, it can often be better for you in the long run. As you start coping with being marginalized, create boundaries and distance from your family, you will start to distance yourself from the constant ridicule, humiliation, criticism, and control. As you cut away toxic people from your life, you will be able to improve your mental health.
4. You are more compassionate
Being a black sheep in the family makes you more compassionate towards others who are different. You become more empathic towards people who don’t fit into the community and aren’t able to live up to the standards set by our society. Annie Wright adds “Pain can create empathy, and empathy can create a connection. I think that one of the great gifts of being “the black sheep” is the opportunity for increased empathy and compassion for so many others who society often deems as other.”
5. You become stronger
Pain makes you stronger. When you are unaccepted and unloved by your family, you learn to love you yourself through a lot of mental and emotional suffering. As you grow through all the hatred and self-criticism, you learn to accept yourself and stand up for yourself. You realize that you will not break despite what life throws at you. You know that despite how hard the times may get, you will always emerge stronger than before.
Annie adds “Those who embody “the black sheep” of the family may often have more psychological “scars” than other, more accepted family members, but they may also have a greater sense of self than others in the family, too.”
Be your unique self
“Do not cringe and make yourself small if you are called the black sheep, the maverick, the lone wolf. Those with slow seeing say that a nonconformist is a blight on society. But it has been proven over the centuries, that being different means standing at the edge, that one is practically guaranteed to make an original contribution, a useful and stunning contribution to her culture.” – Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Ph.D.
Even though your family might refuse to accept you as you are, what truly matters is if you accept yourself… if you accept your genuine and most authentic self. Being a black sheep in the family is difficult and traumatizing. But it can ultimately help you in connecting with your inner self and unapologetically embrace who you truly are.
Just because you don’t have much in common with your family, it doesn’t mean you are an “oddball” or “weird”. It simply means you are different. It means that your family members feel intimidated by you which is why they want to make you feel bad for being who you are. This is why they want you to change and be more like them. But that doesn’t mean you have to change who you are. Why? Because there is nothing wrong with you.
You are perfect just the way you are. And it’s about time you start acknowledging that.
Be genuine. Be proud. And be openly yourself.
Also read: Surviving Christmas: 11 Ways To Deal With Your Toxic Family During The Holidays
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