I talked about these changes to one of my close friends. He suggested me to use a girlfriend spying app . At first, it seemed crazy, but when she started avoiding me even on the weekends, I had no choice.
I sneaked into her apartment to install the app on her Android phone. It was a scary move but I did what I had to too. She wasn’t really tech savvy so there was no way she could find out about this girlfriend spying app. Plus, it works in stealth mode so that wasn’t a problem at all.
When I started monitoring her messages, I was shocked to find out she’s involved with some other guy. I looked into her text messages as well as the media shared. It was hard for me to believe that an innocent soul like her could do this.
The shocking thing for me was that the guy she was seeing already knew she was in a relationship with me. She had plans of dumping me. The messages that I viewed clearly explained that they had been sleeping together as well.
The next when we met, I made it clear to her that I know she is seeing someone else and we should part ways. I never mentioned the girlfriend spying app though. I died a little inside when she wasn’t even sorry for what she did. How easily she chose someone else over me and how easily she forgot all the good times we had!
The story isn’t as devastating as it seems but the kind of emotional stress that I went through is unexplainable. I was serious in the relationship as I already had proposed to her and she even said yes.
It has been 8 months since the breakup and I would confess that every single day for me was full of anxiety. I couldn’t get over the fact that she cheated on me.
Tips to Heal from Infidelity
It took me a lot of time to realize that I wasted my days on somebody who did not deserve me. There are some things that I would like to share with all men out there who had to go through the same pain as I did. Here they are:
Forgive her and move on
It may take some time to reach the stage of forgiving her especially when you know that she is not even sorry for what she did. Nevertheless, you have to be the bigger person. Don’t contain the feelings, let them go because the earlier you do so, the faster you will heal.
Don’t go after her, don’t stalk her or send her text messages. If she doesn’t want you back, you shouldn’t be wasting your time on her either. Forgive her whenever your inner voice tells you to.
Try to figure out why she did what she did
First thing’s first, don’t blame yourself for everything. It’s still her fault that she cheated. But it’s true too that it takes two to tango so maybe there was your share of fault in the infidelity too. Maybe you went from a caring boyfriend to a workaholic boyfriend. It can be an opposite case too. Maybe instead of focusing on your life goals, you became too clingy on her.