Why The Girls With Best Hearts Find Themselves In Toxic Relationships

7. They gravitate towards people with baggage.

People with good hearts love seeing the underdog overcome something. So they always end up in these relationships with people who have a tough past. But they don’t judge them for it but accept them.

It becomes toxic though when they get handed too much. When this person relies on them really heavily. When this person doesn’t know how to properly channel all of their emotions and instead of doing it in a healthy way, they take it out on the person who has been there.

They know the person with a good heart can handle them at their worst and that’s exactly what you get.

 

8. They don’t use words to hurt people.

People with good hearts know the power words have. They have watched themselves fall apart because of others choosing to take them down with harsh and cruel words.

They’ve watched themselves cry over texts they’ve reread.

People with good hearts truly don’t understand unkindness. Because they don’t have a mean bone in their body.

In toxic relationships, toxic people have a sour tongue and lack remorse. When a toxic person develops a deep relationship with someone with a good heart, they get to know them better than anyone but that also means they know exactly what to say to take them down and they do.

 

9. They aren’t confrontational.

They avoid fights. They will apologize even when it’s not their fault. They will never call you out on something and they don’t stick up for themselves too much.

Toxic people see someone like this and they are attracted to the fact they know they can control them. And people with good hearts simply try and appease them.

 

10. They want to save people.

They don’t look at someone who is damaged and broken as someone who is flawed. They look at it as a challenge. They look at it as someone they want to fix.

But in the attempt to try and fix someone toxic, they lose pieces of themselves trying to keep someone whole.

 

11. They hate giving up on anyone.

Toxic relationships run in these tireless circles because people with good hearts refuse to give up on someone they believe in.

People with good hearts see people others look past and they want to be right about them. So they stand by them months or years in hopes that they become this person they knew they would be. But the cost is getting hurt because a toxic person has got to learn on their own.

 

12. They think they can change people.

People with good hearts think they can change people but the change doesn’t occur while in the relationships. Toxic relationships ruin everyone involved.

It isn’t until the relationship is over does the toxic person reflect on this good person they did have and took advantage of. There’s this moment where they realize how horrible they were to this person who deserved it least. And it’s only then when each person has moved on do they change.

People with good hearts change toxic people but toxic people destroy the good ones.

Anyone with a good heart finally does walk away from their toxic half but it kills them to do so. They feel like they’ve let them down. But then they realize it’s for their own good. Then they have to learn to heal from a relationship that took such an emotional toll on them.

Because while they were loving this toxic person who couldn’t love them back, fully or right in that time their good heart changed.

They suddenly become to trust anyone including themselves a little less. They have walls that are so high that they never had up before. They question everyone and everything because of one person.

People with good hearts sacrifice themselves to try and save someone but the cost was self-destruction in the process.


Written By: Kirsten Corley
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Why The Girls With Best Hearts Find Themselves In Toxic Relationships
Kirsten Corley
My name is Kirsten Corley. Both writer by day, hopeless romantic by night live my life with a simple motto. 'What can I do for you' I believe our lives are only as good as the people who's lives you make better. I strive to help readers gain an understanding of intense emotions, like heartbreak and getting through it. I think together we have the ability to overcome the challenges life throws our way and even in those times you hit rock bottom, I see it as a wonderful platform to begin again.

3 COMMENTS

  1. Thank you for putting words to what I was thinking/feeling/experiencing in my own toxic relationship. You speak very knowledgeably about something horrid, and I hope for your sake that you haven’t gone through anything awful/painful. Sending good thoughts your way!

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