4 Mantras To Heal Your Fear Of Commitment

Fear Of Commitment

2. “You cannot control the future, so stop trying to.“

You can do your best, but you cannot control your future.

Even the happiest, most beautiful, most feminine energy, a high-value woman may get cheated on, dumped, left behind, or end up in divorce. Not a high probability, but it can happen.

There’s always that 1% unknown factor to live that we have no control over. Yes, we can do the work and we can control what we bring to the table as conscious wives and partners and girlfriends, but we cannot control who men are going to become, or what surprises life will bring to us.

In other words, whether we like it or we don’t, we are vulnerable in love. I am, you are, the next perfect-looking woman is too. If we try to fight that vulnerability that comes with love, we are fighting against love itself.

So surrender to the fact that you are vulnerable in love, and stop resisting it. Trust you are loved and commit to bringing your best to the relationship. If you fail at it, you will still be okay. In fact, you will be way better off than those that never even tried.

Related: 8 Ways Your Fear and Insecurity Is Sabotaging Your Relationship

3. “There’s boredom, diapers, sleepless nights – and it is still amazing!!!”

For all my clients who are scared of being bored with or by their partners, I have to ask:

Aren’t you bored by yourself too, sometimes? Doesn’t boredom belong to life, or is your life a daily red carpet walk at the Cannes Film Festival? Well, mine isn’t! So yes, there is boredom every once in a while, and it is real and I love it. After all, you have a handsome hunk to get bored with.

You can pull his ears and whatever else you want to and laugh and get bored together. Same with snores. They suck, but they belong to life. All these imperfections make real life. It isn’t what you see in Fifty Shades Of Grey, though it comes quite close to it.

4. Lastly: “True love grows, it doesn’t fade out.“

My love for Chris continues to grow, 7+ years into our marriage. I continue to experience him and his soul in ways I never did before. It is the same for him. What a joy it is for him to see his woman succeed so fiercely and be a mother and grow more into her fullest potential.

Over time, your trust deepens, your safety with each other deepens, the lovemaking gets better (not boring), IF you’re a woman who can handle real intimacy and let your guard down.

IF you’re a woman who can look beyond the mundane and enjoy the complexities of the human being you’re with. Now with time, love may change its forms. It may not look the same as it looked when it started, but it doesn’t mean it’s weaker or less powerful.

Just different!

This is true especially if you’re doing the Wunder work and using the powerful tools you learn from my programs. They will support your relationship to deepen with time, with yourself, and with your man.

The honeymoon phase truly does NOT have to end. The depths of intimacy that are available for you to experience with an emotionally healthy man being can be astoundingly limitless. But you have to be an eager beaver, willing to learn, willing to get down and dirty and play the raw field of emotions and vulnerability, that love is!

Related: 7 Fears Men Need to Give Up to Find the Love They Desire

There is great love here for you, my loves! All you need to do is heal your own fear of commitment and open your heart to receive all the love and joy this life has to offer.

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Written By Sami Wunder
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Sami Wunder

Sami Wunder is a leading international relationship and dating expert who specializes in working with ambitious, high-achieving women, helping them attract lasting romantic love. Her clients range from Hollywood celebrities to UK TV stars to CEOs, bankers, lawyers, doctors, renowned authors, leading entrepreneurs, and more. She’s a leading authority when it comes to dating and relationships and is a sought-after expert in the media, appearing regularly in the Business Insider, Forbes and Time magazines, Glamour, the Daily Mail, The Metro, Cosmopolitan, and many more. Her core work philosophy is empowering ambitious women in their love lives who are looking to attract their soulmates, teaching high-value dating behaviors, feminine energy, and the importance of dating with boundaries and an empowered diva mindset.View Author posts