What Does Being In Love Actually Feel Like?

What Does Being In Love Actually Feel Like?


1. Friendship

“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” – Ann Landers

When you think of a relationship, having the foundation of friendship is crucial.

Relationship researcher John Gottman says, “Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse.”

Without friendship in your relationship, it’s hard to gauge to what extent the couple is like-minded, actually gets along, and if the relationship is progressing as it should be. Based on Gottman’s research, friendship is necessary to create a healthy romance and affection.


2. Respect

“Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Everybody wants to feel and be respected. While there has to be a level of self-respect present, we all want to be respected within our relationship.

This means that we need to tap into our ability to recognize our partner’s feelings and individual needs.

If we can do this, then we can show them that they are respected, valued, and loved. And when you can do that, respect is likely to be reciprocated.


3. Loyalty

“Without loyalty there can be no friendship.” – Eric Felten

Ultimately, people want to know that they are important to their partners.

To show the ones we love that they are important to us that means that we not only have to prioritize them, but we have to be loyal and dedicated.

Make your partner number one in your life and commit to being there for them.

Many people struggle with putting their partners first and dedicating themselves. It feels like you are putting them before your other family and friends — because you are. Let your partner be your primary concern and let your focus be on them.

The goal with loyalty is to be consistent with your presence and be dependable. Everyone wants to know that their partner is there for them when they need them. When they call, make sure you answer.

Ultimately, romantic relationships are a significant aspect of all of our lives.

We spend an immense amount of time and energy trying to find Mr. or Mrs. Right.

But to do so, we need to make sure we know what we are looking for and are not afraid to take that leap.


Here’s an interesting video that you may find helpful:


“Love: a wildly misunderstood although highly desirable malfunction of the heart which weakens the brain, causes eyes to sparkle, cheeks to glow, blood pressure to rise and the lips to pucker.” – Unknown


So what does love really feel like? How can you know if you are in love? Well, you just do. When you fall in love, your heart, mind, body, soul and your entire existence will let you know that you have fallen for someone worth loving. Love means different things to different people and everyone will describe it differently…the way they have experienced love personally.

Love is all-consuming. Love is wonderful and pretty amazing. It will take over you and consume you. Your feelings for the person you love will dominate your heart and mind. However, you need to remember to love yourself as well. When you love yourself as much as the other person, it will allow your love to grow and thrive in ways you can’t even imagine. 

Love is the closest thing we have to magic.

Love is one of the greatest feelings we can ever experience in life. 

Written By Janika Veasley
Originally Appeared On Your Tango

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