The thought of others seeing me as good enough, as opposed to perfect, in any area of my life, simply seemed unacceptable.
But as often happens, my curiosity won the day and I bought the book. I was now open to considering that there is a whole different mindset from which I can potentially build a life, that included all the things I love, but without the high cost, I was paying in stress, anxiety, and ultimately physical illness.
Practice being good enough
Slowly, I began the practice of being good enough in all areas of my life, not just parenting. Much to my surprise, my kids didn’t turn into criminals, my boss still appreciated my work, my parents still loved me, my significant other didn’t even notice the change (a good thing), and life began to feel lighter, more joyful, and relaxed.
The dreadful constant feeling that at any moment, one or more of the balls I was keeping up in the air was going to drop with terrible consequences, lessened considerably. In time and through practice, I found that I was able to be far more present in my everyday life; a critical shift that had me experiencing a richer and more connected life.
It’s not easy to shift our mindset and our actions to good enough-ism.
It goes against every value most of us are raised with. When I introduce this concept to my clients, they tend to dismiss it quickly and without much thought. They think I’m encouraging them to be mediocre at work, at home, and in their relationships.
Nothing could be further from the truth. I am in the business of helping people optimize their personal and professional lives, and as such, it’s imperative that my clients and I, get to the heart of the beliefs (always limiting, and often false) that are getting in the way of achieving their goals.
No one has the goal of being mediocre, but almost everyone has the goal of feeling good, while on the path to achieving their goals.
Perfectionism gets in the way of that, and in my opinion, embracing the practice of being good enough is enormously helpful.
Good enough or not good enough for you?
If you’re interested in exploring this concept in your own life, please email me and I will share my list of practices to help you make the shift away from perfectionism, and orient yourself towards a more productive mindset. I know this to be true, that people change best by feeling good, not feeling bad.
Written by: Carolyn Mahboubi
Originally appeared on: Carolynmahboubi.com
Republished with permission