5 Behaviours You Display Because You Were Raised By A Narcissist

4. You consider others’ feelings more important than your own.

If you already know that you were raised by a narcissist, you might really resonate with this one. In mind games played by a narcissist, it’s absolutely essential that they have an upper hand over opinions, over actions and mostly over feelings.

Which means that they will not stop short in letting you know subtly or not-so-subtly, that their last word is the golden word, whatever that may be. They will even go as far to tell you what to feel and how to feel.

Consequently, as someone who never got a chance to access what they truly feel, you’ll always display the tendency to keep others’ convenience above your own, to consider their feelings more than what you’re experiencing.

 

5. You find emotional boundaries difficult to acknowledge and hold.

Having grown up with a person who posed as someone who knew you better than anyone else, who had your best interest at heart, it’s not surprising that your emotional boundaries are so porous.

 

Trying to function around a narcissistic parent often results in one of the following or both :

  • You repress how you feel and give predominance to how someone else feels, or
  • You rebel and care only about what you feel

You switch between these two states, creating a chaotic inner landscape.

Barely there emotional boundaries can often make trust a difficult subject for you and as a result, your adult relationships could become disharmonious.

A parent-child bond underlined by narcissism can leave behind invisible marks of despair, distress and sometimes even depression.

Even if you do come to realise that your early upbringing was rooted in narcissistic behaviour, it’s important that you go slow in your recovery.

Need be, exploring your inner world and your past with a therapist can give you closure at multiple levels. You might want to go easy on yourself while you’re on this journey, for the simple reason that it can rake up a lot of unacknowledged feelings and sensations.

Growing up with a narcissistic parent is a pain like no other, because when you needed to be seen and heard, you were in fact making sure someone else was being seen and heard.

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Sunanda Patihttps://gaiacomestothecity.blogspot.com/
Sunanda Pati is a certified expressive arts therapist and facilitator and a freelance creative writer. Having developed an early interest in psychology and later various forms of bodywork, she has actively worked in knowing her own inner world and processing various traumas. She believes every person is blessed with an endless reserve of inspiration, courage and wisdom. Sunanda lives, writes, practices and facilitates in Bangalore, India. More of her writings can be found at : http://gaiacomestothecity.blogspot.com. She also runs an expressive arts initiative of the same name (Gaia Comes to the City), which can be found on Facebook.
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