9. Panic over the prospect of being single forever.
Sometimes the panic and anxiety oozing out of my single friends is so palpable I almost feel like I need a Xanax. Worrying about ending up alone gets you nowhere, the same way that worrying about what to eat for lunch doesn’t magically make a sandwich appear before you.
Worrying can feel like it’s serving a purpose, but it’s not. Instead, just keep it cool and calm, have faith that you will get the love you want when the time is right and try to just find happiness on your own until you get there.
10. You have low self-esteem.
What keeps us in bad relationships is low self-esteem- deep down you don’t believe you deserve better or that you’ll find someone better. You also don’t have a strong sense of self so his opinion is everything to you. This is the perfect breeding ground for neediness which is an absolute relationship killer.
If you don’t love yourself, you also won’t be able to believe someone else can love you, so you won’t ever fully trust it even if a great guy does come along. How can you really believe it if you don’t love yourself? You’ll be looking for the other shoe to drop and you might sabotage the relationship.
11. You don’t even try.
You are not going to find love but staying locked away and wondering where all the great guys are. Yes, the apps are annoying and going out meeting new people is annoying and asking your friends if they know anyone for you is annoying, but you have to put some effort into it.
You have to put yourself out there. And ask your married and couples up friends who they know! Don’t assume people are thinking of you. Anytime one of my single friends asks me if I know anyone, I suddenly realize that I actually do!
You have to make some effort to put yourself out there instead of moaning and complaining over how annoying it is to put the effort in.
I hope this article helped you better understand the behaviors that may be keeping you single forever.
Written by: Sabrina Alexis
Originally appeared on: A New Mode
Republished with permission.
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