7 Things You Must Know Before You Commit Again After An Ugly Breakup

Things Know Before You Commit Again

Yes, it’s true, your besties have a lot in common with you, but you are a unique and divinely created human being – don’t ever forget that!

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5. If your soul desires to be in a partnership it will be.

If you desire something, it is meant to be. If your soul desires a loving, connected, and committed relationship, when your soul is ready, your desire will manifest.

But if you get stuck in scarcity mode thinking that you will be alone forever and jump before you are ready, then expect a few more bumps in the road. You might need to go on many dates or even have several relationships to learn what needs to be healed before you can attract the one.

Often people settle on something less than their soul desires because they cannot move beyond the mentality of scarcity. This is likely why the divorce rate for second marriages (60%) is higher than first marriages (41%).

6. The opposite of your ex is not the answer.

After being in a relationship or marriage for quite some time you tend to focus on everything that was wrong with the partnership…or person. Your desire to stay as far away from recreating the same experience naturally leads you to the exact opposite. But here’s the problem with that let me use an analogy.

Let’s say your ex was a salty bag of chips. The whole time you were with him you craved something sweet. So now you think you want a big tub of sweet gummy bears.

Oh, how you long for this sweet goodness. That is until your teeth start to hurt. You crave something different because this was not whole. Go for balance, not opposites. Take the good things your ex had and add in everything else you desire. You deserve salty and sweet and all sorts of other flavors and aromas. Go for the whole enchilada Baby!

7. Eliminate entanglements first.

It is not uncommon for people to date before their divorce is final or arrangements with their former partner are sorted out. I have even seen people go years before they finalize their divorce because it is too much of a headache or there is some benefit to remaining legally married.

Although you are not ‘in love’ with that person anymore and you live in separate homes doesn’t mean there are no emotional or energetic entanglements.

Commit to the work you need to do to eliminate these entanglements as soon as possible. Get that divorce finalized! Decide on who has custody of the dog.

Whatever it is deal with it! Let me ask you this – would you invite someone new into your house before cleaning it? Prepare a fresh clean space to welcome in your beloved.

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When your soul is ready, your mate will appear.

Let’s get you ready! Everything I know and teach comes from my own personal struggles, learning, and growth. After several failures and almost losing the love of my life I figured out exactly what was holding me back from what I deeply desired and how to heal myself to create the love I desire.

I don’t want you to have to go through all of the same struggles I did so I created Unlocking Love – The Short Course to help you discover and unlock what is holding you back from the love you desire. It is the shortcut to Epic Love you’ve been looking for!

And if you are feeling confused or discouraged like you just do not know where to start we should talk. Schedule a complimentary 30 Minute Discovery Session with me to get some clarity on how to move forward.


Written by Diane Taylor

Originally appeared on ElevateLove.com

Printed with permission

When you are looking to commit again after a devastating breakup, having feelings of pessimism, and uncertainty is obvious. But does that mean you will never love again, and won’t commit to anyone ever again? If your answer is a resounding no, then make sure that you follow these tips, and just see how your heart opens up for love again.

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Diane Taylor

Intuitive Love Coach. Discover and unlock what is preventing you from the love you desire.View Author posts