2. Identify negative self-talk.
One of the ways we can better accept ourselves is to identify and challenge our negativity. We always have these inner monologues chirping away at us, interpreting the events happening all around us. For many of us, this self-talk is mostly negative. For example, we might think, “I’m ugly” or “My life sucks,” when we watch TV shows or look at our social media. Or we might think, “He hates me,” if a friend posts a picture of a fun time that we weren’t invited to.
We could stop some of this painful ruminating by simply limiting our media and social media time, but we also need to practice stopping the negative self-talk.
3. Celebrate your strengths.
In addition to negative self-talk, we can also easily slide into the habit of focusing on our weaknesses instead of celebrating our strengths. We all suck at things. In fact, we all suck at most things, and that’s OK. But it can really get us down when we focus on these things instead of focusing on what we’re good at.
For example, I sometimes put myself down, because I’m not great at maintaining friendships long-term. It’s true. I’m an introvert. I don’t like texting and often feel shy about asking people to meet in person. But if we get down on ourselves regularly for the things we’re not good at, it’s going to be hard to like ourselves as much as we could.
So, in addition to trying to improve our weaknesses, we have to remind ourselves of what we are good at. If we think about it, each of us have many strengths, even if these strengths seem small and insignificant. By identifying them we realize, hey, our weird, one-of-a-kind self is pretty awesome after all.