Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website

How To Handle Narcissistic Abuse

The most important thing to remember about intentional abuse is that it’s designed to dominate you. Abusers’ goals are to increase their control and authority while creating doubt, shame, and dependency in their victims.

The Trauma of Children Of Addicts and Alcoholics

Learn what children of addicts and alcoholics go through.

Relationship Killers: Anger and Resentment

When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re really reacting to something in our past event – often from childhood.

Confronting Narcissistic Abuse

Allowing abuse damages your self-esteem.  Thus, it’s important to confront it. That doesn’t mean to fight and argue. It means standing your ground and speaking up for yourself

The Power Of Self-Talk

Are you aware that you talk to yourself all the time? We all do. Our self-talk makes a huge difference in our lives for better or for worse. The question to ask yourself is whether your inner voice is your friend or foe.

Steps To Be Empowered And Not A Victim

There’s a saying in Al-Anon Family Groups: “There are no victims, only volunteers” – meaning that when you tolerate unacceptable behavior, you volunteer for it.

10 Habits That Cause Low Self Esteem And Depression

When our self-esteem is low, which is typical of codependency, we’re at greater risk for depression.

Getting Triggered And What You Can Do About It

Getting your “buttons” pushed or getting “triggered” is an opportunity to heal and grow. The more hurts we’ve endured and the weaker our boundaries, the more reactive we are to people and events.

Narcissistic Relationships

Partners of narcissists feel torn between their love and their pain, between staying and leaving, but they can’t seem to do either.

Why Romance Turns Toxic: The Psychology Behind Love & Relationships

Too often a beautiful romance turns sour. What was a wonderful dream becomes a painful nightmare!

What is Narcissistic Abuse: Signs to Identify It and Ways to Protect Yourself

Signs To Identify It and Ways to protect Yourself from narcissistic abuse.