Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website

The Dark Side Of Loneliness

We don’t always feel lonely when we’re alone... the reasons vary and it is usually not about staying alone

Christmas Blues? Holiday Depression

The stress of the holidays triggers sadness and depression for many people. This time of year is especially difficult because there’s an expectation of feeling merry and generous.

Is Your Relationship Toxic? Common Red Flags and What To Do

Healthy relationships nourish and support us. A toxic relationship, on the other hand, is like poison to us — instead of lifting us up, it makes us feel worse.

Objectifying Women Shames Everyone

Men don’t realize how sexual shame also harms them.

Are You Losing Yourself In Your Relationship? Stages of Codependency and what you can do about it

We lose ourselves gradually in small imperceptible ways. It can start with romance, when it’s normal to want to please our loved one and spend much of our time together.

5 Red Flags and Blind Spots In Dating A Narcissist

Here are some reasons why you might not recognize a narcissist:

Soulmates And Unconditional Love

Are you searching for a soul mate or unconditional love?

Denial: A Serious, Invisible Problem

Denial is serious. It’s a refusal to acknowledge truth or reality. It may be conscious but is usually unconscious. We all do it. We not only deceive ourselves, we forget, excuse, rationalize, and minimize.

Thanksgiving and Gratitude in Hard Times

Gratefulness comes more easily to some than others. There are several things we can do to develop an “Attitude of Gratitude.”

Love Bombing as a Narcissistic Attachment Style

Getting hit by a love bomb feels glorious! The lavish attention and affection seem to answer our prayers. We’ve found Mr. or Ms. Right―our soul mate; unsuspecting that we’ve been targeted by a narcissist.