Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website

Codependency Addiction: Stages of Disease and Recovery

Codependency has been referred to as “relationship addiction” or “love addiction.” The focus on others helps to alleviate our pain and inner emptiness, but in ignoring ourselves, it only grows.

Ways How Self-Esteem Makes Or Breaks Relationships

Self-esteem not only affects how we think about ourselves but also how much love we're able to receive and how we treat others, especially in intimate relationships.

Toxic Shame: How Internalized Shame Alters Our Self-Image

Unlike ordinary shame, “internalized shame” hangs around and alters our self-image. When shame becomes toxic, it can ruin our lives.

Dealing With A Passive-Aggressive Partner

You may be experiencing abuse, but not realize it, because their strategy of expressing hostility is covert and manipulative, leading to conflict and intimacy problems.

The Dark Triad Traits and How to Protect Yourself

Think of the Dark Triad of Narcissism, Psychopathy, and Machiavellianism as the Bermuda Triangle – it’s perilous to get near it!

How to Spot a Narcissist

What a narcissist looks and feels like is someone who puts him or herself above all others. However, you might not notice it at first.

Is Your Partner A Sociopath Or A Narcissist?

Ways to know If Your Partner A Sociopath Or A Narcissist?

10 Reasons Why Boundaries Don’t Work

Has setting limits not worked? Despite your efforts, are your boundaries often ignored? It’s frustrating, but it’s not always the other person’s fault. Here’s why and what to do.

Recovery From Rejection And Break-Ups

Because our nervous system is wired to need others, rejection is painful. Romantic rejection especially hurts.

5 Tips To Help You Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

Do you make resolutions and then feel disappointed or guilty for breaking them?

The Dark Side Of Loneliness

We don’t always feel lonely when we’re alone... the reasons vary and it is usually not about staying alone