Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT
Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website
No More People Pleasing, Please!
Codependency has been referred to as “relationship addiction” or “love addiction.” The focus on others helps to alleviate our pain and inner emptiness, but in ignoring ourselves, it only grows.
Self-esteem not only affects how we think about ourselves but also how much love we're able to receive and how we treat others, especially in intimate relationships.
Unlike ordinary shame, “internalized shame” hangs around and alters our self-image. When shame becomes toxic, it can ruin our lives.