Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website

How To Spot Manipulation

Manipulation may seem benign or even friendly or flattering as if the person has your highest concern in mind, but in reality, it’s to achieve an ulterior motive.

Dysthymia – Symptoms, Causes and Treatment

Dysthymia or chronic depression is a common symptom of codependency; however, many codependents aren’t aware that they’re depressed.

Signs a Narcissist is Playing Mind Games With You

Narcissists see relationships as a means to get what they want, without concern for the feelings of the other person.

How To Change Your Attachment Style

We seek or avoid intimacy along a continuum, but one of the three styles is generally predominant in us whether we’re dating or in a long term marriage:

Can You Love Too Much? Codependent “Caretakers”

Codependents have a habit of ignoring their needs and constantly putting others first, they often confuse love with being someone's caretaker.

Codependency Addiction: Stages of Disease and Recovery

Codependency has been referred to as “relationship addiction” or “love addiction.” The focus on others helps to alleviate our pain and inner emptiness, but in ignoring ourselves, it only grows.

Ways How Self-Esteem Makes Or Breaks Relationships

Self-esteem not only affects how we think about ourselves but also how much love we're able to receive and how we treat others, especially in intimate relationships.

Toxic Shame: How Internalized Shame Alters Our Self-Image

Unlike ordinary shame, “internalized shame” hangs around and alters our self-image. When shame becomes toxic, it can ruin our lives.

Dealing With A Passive-Aggressive Partner

You may be experiencing abuse, but not realize it, because their strategy of expressing hostility is covert and manipulative, leading to conflict and intimacy problems.

The Dark Triad Traits and How to Protect Yourself

Think of the Dark Triad of Narcissism, Psychopathy, and Machiavellianism as the Bermuda Triangle – it’s perilous to get near it!

How to Spot a Narcissist

What a narcissist looks and feels like is someone who puts him or herself above all others. However, you might not notice it at first.