Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website

6 Tactics Manipulators Use To Control And Confuse You

Understanding the tactics manipulators use to control and confuse people empowers you. Dr. Darlene Lancer enlists here some of the notorious tactics used by manipulators.

Therapy for Narcissistic Personality Disorder(NPD) and Narcissists

If you know a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder who wants to opt for therapy, this is for you. Read here the different clinical approaches to treat Narcissistic Personality Disorders.

What You Should Know about Narcissists, NPD and their Partners

The hallmarks of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy towards others and a constant need for admiration.

Why Narcissists Act the Way They Do

You can fall in love with a narcissist's charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be baffling, but it all makes sense when you understand what drives them. That awareness protects you from their games, lies, and manipulation.

How to Leave A Narcissist or Abuser

Once you are in love with a narcissist, it's not easy to leave, despite the abuse.

Loving Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder

Caring about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed.

Meeting Your Needs is the Key to Happiness

The key to happiness is meeting our needs. Although codependents are very good at meeting needs of other people, many are clueless about their own needs.

Love, Lust, Or A Toxic Addiction? This Is How You Know

Wonder whether you’re in love or in lust? Whether your obsession about someone is a sign of love or addiction? Whether you’re staying in a troubled relationship because you’re addicted or in love?

The Perfectionist’s Trap

Perfection is an illusion existing only in the mind.

12 Tips To Self-Love And Compassion

The idea of self-love and self-nurturing baffles most people, especially codependents, who by and large, received inadequate parenting.