Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website

Why Narcissists Act the Way They Do

You can fall in love with a narcissist's charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be baffling, but it all makes sense when you understand what drives them. That awareness protects you from their games, lies, and manipulation.

How to Leave A Narcissist or Abuser

Once you are in love with a narcissist, it's not easy to leave, despite the abuse.

Loving Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder

Caring about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed.

Meeting Your Needs is the Key to Happiness

The key to happiness is meeting our needs. Although codependents are very good at meeting needs of other people, many are clueless about their own needs.

Love, Lust, Or A Toxic Addiction? This Is How You Know

Wonder whether you’re in love or in lust? Whether your obsession about someone is a sign of love or addiction? Whether you’re staying in a troubled relationship because you’re addicted or in love?

The Perfectionist’s Trap

Perfection is an illusion existing only in the mind.

12 Tips To Self-Love And Compassion

The idea of self-love and self-nurturing baffles most people, especially codependents, who by and large, received inadequate parenting.

What is a Covert Narcissist?

You may be fooled by a covert narcissist, but a covert narcissist is just as much a narcissist as your typical extroverted narcissist.

What is Imposter Syndrome?

Imposter syndrome i.e. feeling like a fraud due to the self-doubt and lack of confidence which stems from low self-esteem that makes us afraid of being discovered and judged inadequate or incompetent.

Breaking The Cycle Of Abandonment

If you’re discontented in a relationship or go from one to another or even remain unhappily alone, you may be caught in a worsening cycle of abandonment.

Valentine’s Day Traps – 6 Tips to Avoid Them

Valentine’s Day is fraught with landmines and expectations, often unrealized, and whether you’re in or out of a relationship, the grass isn’t always greener. Is your situation described here?