7 Thoughts Not To Think As You Get Older

Thoughts Not to Think as You Get Older

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3. Nobody wants to hear from an old woman.

It’s a bad thought.

Is this true? How do you know? Have you tried to say something cool lately? Do you speak up? Or do you assume that no one’s listening, so you mumble? What do you have to say anyway? Do you know what’s important for you to convey?

It’s easy to get swallowed into the ageist vacuum where we find ourselves without a voice. But it’s not an excuse to say that nobody wants to hear from you, especially if you aren’t saying anything.

What to do instead?

Tell stories. Give toasts. Write blogs. The most important thing is to say things that really matter to you. To figure out what matters to you, you have to listen to yourself. You have to discover what makes you sit up and pay attention.

Once you know what grabs your interest, learn more about it. And then, when you tell others what you find fascinating, animate your voice, put energy in your body, and command presence.

It’s so comfortable to succumb to a kind of small talk that lacks salience and spark. “Some weather we are having” isn’t enough to command attention.

You’ve probably spent so many years listening to others that you forgot how to make your own voice known and heard. But it’s not impossible. In fact, it’s invigorating. Try things out.

Get the attention at the dinner table by telling a gripping, informative, and playful story.

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4. Kids today…

It’s a bad thought.

Don’t think it. Never say it. It’s tiresome. It’s… old.

It was said about you. It was said about your mother, and it was said about her mother.

Here’s the truth: Kids today are fascinating. They always have been. Why? Because they are different than you were. They face different issues, new inventions, and live in diverse times. By judging them, you lose your chance to connect in meaningful ways. By dissing them, you miss the opportunity to inspire yourself with new learning, fresh energy, and unusual ways to be.

What to do instead?

Get curious about the younger generations as you get older. Make friends with them. Ask questions about them. Read their books. Listen to their music. Dance their dances. Listen to their ideas, politics, and attitudes with an open mind.

The best way to age is not to try to stay young, but to be influenced by the young.

5. The past matters more than the future.

It’s a bad thought.

Stop thinking of past as you get older

If this is the case, then why invest in our future?

If the future doesn’t matter, then we might as well be complacent, stay on the couch, drink more, isolate ourselves from the world, and stop learning. This thought, “the past matters more than my future,” keeps us stuck. And it makes us believe that our later years are just something to get through.

If the future doesn’t really matter, then why do anything meaningful now.

What to do instead?

Your future, whether you are 49, 59 or 99, matters. It matters a lot. Your future is important because you are here now, and as long as you are here now, you can make what’s next count.

Who do you want to be? Who is your future self? Write about her. Design her. Decide that up until your last breath, your future matters, because it informs what you do, and who you are, now.

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6. I don’t have much to offer.

It’s a bad thought.

This thought makes me mad. Sure, we can blame ageism for taking away our relevance and potency in a youth-centric culture. But do we have to decide that we don’t have anything to offer? Because this thought might make you give up trying as you get older.

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