The perfect partner is not one with whom I will always feel happy. That person doesn’t exist. He or she is someone with whom I share a commitment to honor the needs and gifts of my soul, someone who will bring into my life the qualities that will help me to live more generously and openheartedly; to cultivate, what the Dalai Lama has referred to as the “warm heart”.
Having relationship upsets and disappointments doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re a mismatch. These things happen, even in the best partnerships and they are not indicators that we’re not meant to be together. They are part of the process. The real question has to do with whether or not each of us is willing to learn and grow ourselves into whole, loving human beings.
The willingness to take this commitment on and share it with another is much greater when we recognize the value and preciousness of such an agreement. And as we practice living in integrity with the truth of who we really are, the benefits and gifts from this partnership become greater and more rewarding over time. The process becomes self-reinforcing. Whether you’ve been on this path for decades or are just considering dipping your toes in the water, it’s never too late (or too early) to begin. What are you waiting for?
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Written by Linda and Charlie Bloom Originally appeared in Psychology Today