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Are You Losing Yourself In Your Relationship? Stages of Codependency and What To Do

Are You Losing Yourself In Your Relationship

Eventually, your happiness and self-esteem doesn’t depend on others. You gain the capacity for both autonomy and intimacy. You experience your own power and self-love. You feel expansive and creative, with the ability to generate and pursue your own goals.

Codependency doesn’t automatically disappear if you leave a codependent relationship. After losing yourself in your relationship recovery requires ongoing maintenance. After a while, changes in thinking and behaviour become natural, and the tools and skills learned become new healthy habits. Perfectionism is a symptom of codependency. There is no such thing as perfect recovery. Recurring symptoms merely present ongoing learning opportunities!

©Darlene Lancer 2018


Written by Darlene Lancer JD, MFT
Republished with permission.

Are You Losing Yourself In Your Relationship Stages of Codependency and what you can do about it
Are You Losing Yourself In Your Relationship? Stages of Codependency and What You Can Do About It
Are You Losing Yourself In Your Relationship? Stages of Codependency and What To Do
Are You Losing Yourself In Your Relationship? Stages of Codependency and What To Do
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Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website.View Author posts