Some people perceive the idea of “being alone” negatively. They have the notion that being alone is similar to being anti-social and unwanted, which are definitely not positive things. But let me tell you that being alone is actually not so bad. In fact, once you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll understand that solitude has a plethora of benefits.
There’s no denying the joys and advantages that one finds in good relationships with other people. So, I’m not encouraging complete isolation from the world. But you need moments of solitude. Once you begin to enjoy being alone, you’ll feel more connected with your inner self and grow as a person.
Below are ten amazing things that will happen in your life when you start to enjoy being alone.
1. You’ll get to rejuvenate yourself.
Constant interactions with other people can be mentally taxing. When we are in the company of other people and interact with them actively, we use up a lot of energy. We are focusing on other people’s emotions, understanding their feelings, making them happy, pacifying their egos, etc. The rigors of day-to-day interactions drain us mentally and emotionally. Hence, a little time spent in your own company allows you to take a break from interacting with others and instead focus on rejuvenating yourself.
2. You’ll have an opportunity to reflect on your life.
In today’s world, our lives are moving forward at an extremely fast pace. Amidst the mad rush, we hardly get a moment to quietly reflect on our life. Being alone gives you a chance to introspect. When you’re alone, you don’t have to continuously process the words, thoughts and feelings of the people around you. Alone time is the best time to look inwards.
Solitude offers the ideal setting for self-reflection.
3. You’ll get better acquainted with your own emotions.
Again, constantly being in the company of other people makes us focus on their emotions more than our own. We try to read their feelings and cater to their needs and in the process, we lose touch with our own emotions.
Being alone is important to get a better perspective of your own feelings and thoughts. Once you enjoy being alone, you’ll gain greater understanding of the things that make you happy, sad, proud and upset.
When you have that sort of knowledge about yourself, it becomes easier to balance your emotions. But all of that happens when you get it touch with yourself, i.e., enjoy some moments of solitude.
4. You’ll get to do the things you enjoy and always wanted to do.
Let’s face it, it’s enjoyable to be in the company of people, but you’re only doing things that the entire group can enjoy together. Many a times, we compromise our personal wants to do what the entire group agrees with. It’s natural to do that because what we want may not sync in with the rest of the members of the group.
But being alone gives you the freedom to experience all the things you’ve always wanted to. All the more reason to start enjoying our own company!
5. It’ll boost your productivity.
Have you ever felt that you get more work done when you’re alone? You’re feelings are justified because being in the company of other people is definitely fun and enjoyable, but it can have a negative impact on your productivity. Truth be told, sometimes the company of others just acts as a big distraction that prevents you from doing your work properly.
If you start to enjoy alone time, you will become more productive and be able to solely focus on getting the job done. There’re limited distractions and the time spent alone will surely be the most productive period of your life.
6. You’ll begin to appreciate your relationships more.
Surprising as it may sound, when you start to enjoy being by yourself and value the alone time, you also begin to enjoy the relationships you have with other people.
This happens because when you spend time with yourself, you start to appreciate yourself more.
Simultaneously, you also develop greater appreciation for your relationships and the value that they add to your life. Sometimes, we don’t notice all the good things that come from connections with other people and being alone let’s you appreciate that.
7. You’ll feel more confident.
One of the best things that happen when you start to enjoy being alone is that you become more self-confident. Your ability to be alone and enjoy your own company naturally makes you feel more independent and self-assured.
No more dealing with the anxiety or obsessive desire of having company. Neither will you feel the need to constantly seek company and have interactions with others nor will there be the anxiety of feeling lonely amidst a group of people.
8. You won’t have to constantly worry about keeping others happy.
Life isn’t a solitary journey; it is full of various types of relationships. Relationships sustain only when both the people involved are happy. But ensuring that both of you are happy can be a draining job. This is true not only in case of personal relationships but all kinds of relationships.
The great thing about being alone for a few moments is that the only person whose happiness you need to take care of is yourself. You can do whatever it is that makes you happy, without worrying about upsetting another person in the process.
9. You won’t have to apologize for being yourself.
Being alone ensures that you don’t have to be sorry about every other thing you do or say and that is a huge pressure off your back. Many a times, we unknowingly do or say things that upset or hurt other people’s feelings and we have to be the one apologizing.
When you start enjoying solitude, you’ll surely like how you don’t ever have to apologize for being yourself. You won’t have to second-guess how others around you perceive what you say. You don’t have to be conscious about every move you make and be scared that you might hurt, offend or make someone angry.
10. You’ll stop seeking validation.
Usually, we seek validation from people we trust before we take any big decision. We want that “Okay” from people we are close to before we jump to action. We ask our friends and family for advice all the time.
No doubt, in many cases, it’s not only okay to ask for advice but it’s actually the wise thing to do. But there are many situations where we could have easily trusted our own judgment and decision instead of seeking validation.
Once you start spending more time being alone, you’ll be more confident about your decisions; you’ll learn to trust your gut feeling and take actions without third party approval.