‘Am I Ugly?’ How To Respond To This Uncomfortable Question

Am I Ugly Respond Uncomfortable Question

Being asked this question too often may indicate a problem that needs attention.

It may be an indication that the person asking you is suffering from self-doubt or self-critical feelings too much, and may need more help on those issues.

In this situation, the most supportive option may be to ask your friend if a therapist might be useful to help them learn how to get out of the self-critical trap they sometimes get pulled into.

When someone has really been taken to the mat by self-criticism, they need a direct answer and not just another question in response.

Adding a statement of reassurance to that meaning including your opinion, or saying that the opposite of their self-critical question is more true, will help the person asking you that question to see you as a clear supporter.

To direct the conversation in a more productive and supportive direction, you can add a question about what prompted them to ask such a self-critical question.

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The best kind of answer to “Am I ugly?” is a direct answer to the question plus a bit of reassurance.

Unhelpful answers are avoidant ones such as:

  • “Why are you asking me that?”
  • “Why do you think that?”
  • “Why do you care so much about being ugly or pretty?”

Helpful answers are direct ones with a reassurance statement attached, such as:

  • “You’re far from ugly. You have nothing to worry about in that department.”
  • “You’re very pretty. I don’t know why you’re worrying about that.”
  • “You’re not ugly at all. Maybe I don’t tell you enough how nice you look.”
  • “Sweetie, is this about that zit on your nose again? It’s a minor and temporary thing and doesn’t change the fact that you’re an attractive person.”

Originally appeared on: Your Tango
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Am I Ugly Respond To Uncomfortable Question
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