The saying goes actions speak louder than words. I agree to it completely.
But personally I have come across many incidences of myself being wooed to words rather than actions.
The day I am upset about something, and I had a friend who was working at the back-end trying to fix things for me. and this other person who was just sitting by my side and saying words of comfort.
The day I am upset about something, and I had a friend who was working at the back-end trying to fix things for me. and this other person who was just sitting by my side and saying words of comfort.
And somehow I was more inclined to the second one.
Logic does say actions are louder –
But if now I try seeing things from a different perspective –
We say we are in control of our everything. Right ? Now if anything is upsetting – It is to be changed by ‘self’ only. Now how is the first person going to change situations for me ?
We say we are in control of our everything. Right ? Now if anything is upsetting – It is to be changed by ‘self’ only. Now how is the first person going to change situations for me ?
Can he wear my shoes each time ? or walk the road for me ?
The second person in this situation tries fixing Me than my Situations.
Now that’s really Something to me.
Makes sense ? Does it ?
What’s your view now?
What speaks louder ?
Actions or Words ??
Actions or Words ??
yeah true! but thank god i don't always fall for words
Fabiana Zeitter I knew you were joking… shame our voice can't be heard with our words… was serious about the 'taking notes' bit!!! hahahahaha
I' m joking Janine Stranger. ..and cleaning is nothing compared to many other things one have to do being the woman and the man of the house. ..
Fabiana Zeitter lucky I quite like cleaning!! 🙂 Remember… we 'take notes'… words and action… 😉
Exactly. Balance
Yes
Yes words are an essential way to convey a thought emotion or action, perhaps. if we stop there and don't follow through with an action of what has been said then it eventually means nothin; which to me at the very discouraging but …tells all.
Well said!
Absolutely
I think both are important. There should be a balance.
Words gives us hope that they'll follow thorough with actions
Fabiana Zeitter ,#hah…
May be we are conditioned to perceive what we hear faster than what we see …..may be it is because it takes less effort from our ends to just listen ,agree or disagree than to see,understand and analyze…. May be words have faster effect ….
expected one never believe in action,they believe in words.
words is like a sweet if u take too much it will turn as poison, action speaks reality but few understand it immediately,but expected one never going understand it quickly
And i will add experience. A good speaker
I know. That this is humour.. .for if the explanation is needed.. . hah
Fabiana Zeitter ,this is humour…
No. You do foolish things only. You said it haha….Come on Archer.. .let' s be happy.
Fabiana Zeitter ,so I'm foolish,thanks alot…
Both. And i' m always nice even when happy or sad or calm or angry.. .well maybe an exception
Fabiana Zeitter ,which,Ido foolish things or I'm no fool…be nice if possible…
I know
Yes. I did that. Words are immediate. Actions are seen in time. Yes, here time plays its part. But actions mustn' t be underestimated for that. And if it is for time.. .they require more
I don't fall for words… I fell for the way she speaks, the way she breathes, and the way she looks at the sun and misses the rain.
yes.. who's cleaning my house?? yes please.
Naive girl.. ..we are condemned.. .
NOT I
The first person said the words in silence in their mind than acted on them. This is kind of a control thing not revealing intentions before acting. Maybe the action was beneficial even though you did not feel it. It is by far better to empower people than take the power from them by doing it for them. You are the one who has to live with the consequences of your decision and yes the decision you make will affect others, which is why people leave when a person makes certain decisions. The words you heard are important if the motivate and inspire you to help yourself.
I remember your previos comment, when I posted this earlier, long back. I really like and fully agree to this. Empowerment, thats the word here
Stephy Haddad
Words can comfort and soothe the soul..they can inspire or bring you down, but actions speak volumes …
Yes indeed, & then act fooloshly surprised when actions are contracdictory to the words. If we consistently break our word by our actions we will eventually become silenced with no one around us.
It is all relative. I could give examples about how actions envolve much more love and dedication than a few words that are gone with the wind.. .i recognize too that are words full of empathy and feelings that make so good.. .it can' t be generalized.
May be we should now quantify with time. Time used for actions or words
Actions here go beyond than clean the house please.. …i think it refers to other kind of actions.. ..
Lol. I would have counted that in action too
A clean house, who doesn't want one 😉
Haha. ..yes.. .i read something over there.. .but.. .
Words are reaction towards actions,this two things has own value,according to our lives we utilise both, sometimes actions are only required and words keeps silence and sometimes words sounds different than actual action.it's up to you how you present your case.
Why are you letting someone try and fix it for you while you go cry on the shoulder of someone else? Sounds like one is dealing with your physical needs and one your emotional, and you're not really dealing with any of it. They're both propping you up, which we all need from time to time but neither will ultimately be fixing you or your situation, that starts and ends with you. Your words and actions are the ones you should be worried about, what do they say to the friends trying to help you?
That was pretty straight! Thank you, it does make a point
I get your point but I think that is so because the effect of actions can be seen after the act,but with words it all happens immediately…but if the one who acts were to stop,the second person really would be seen as a liar when they say "it will be alright"
It will be alright has to be replaced by, you can do it, you will come out of it 🙂
:/…TRUE but…
…words which are spoken is an action…actions begin with words spoken silently within ones mind and perhaps require action or not…words that imply action is needed should be ''backed-up''…
Agree Mr. Pickron.. ..
Fabiana Zeitter ,dunka Frau Zeitter…
Fabiana Zeitter ,I get a little nervous when you aree with me…just a feeling…
…see…agree…
Haha….we often agree don' t we?. ..und Bitte Herr Pickron.. .
Fabiana Zeitter ,yes…often…
…at times I do foolish things but I am not a fool Fabiana…right ?…
Don't they seem convincing?
Yeah it's true, words are magical, they trap us.
Yes! I think we just become voluntarily blind!!! It's a spell from our feelings…
I think both. Sometimes words are only what we have because of different circumstances and they work anyway. And their effect is immediate. Acts are made in silence, are sometimes hidden and are notorious only in time.. ..and perhaps demand more effort, not seen in the moment. We realize that later.. ..both have the same good intentions but what we receive first seems to have more value and it don' t.. .
my thoughts exactly
Maybe we need to see it from different perspective. We need help and healing at different levels. Some come to help us to keep our house in order. Some to keep our souls in order. The first one is tangible. Is more gross. Is more visible and hence more appreciated. The second ones are empaths, healers, listeners…they comfort you at a deeper level. I speak to many people, who just feel better after speaking to me. I am unable to do much physically for them. But my energy is healing. My presence peaceful. So, I won't say words don't help. It all depends on what you are seeking. A comfortable presence or a comforting absence!
nicely explained 🙂
Thankyou Anubha 🙂
There are actions that will have their effects in the future like all parents do for their children. They are both, practical and spiritual at the same time, actions full of love and hope for them that are recognized in time.. .
Urvashi, Your words are, as once said to me, "a balm." Your energy is a definite healing presence, your words a comfort and reassurance for me. 🙂
Thanks Warnell Randolph 🙂 That was beautiful !
During my college days, i was told that any guy can spread any legs with his words…apparently the guy who lied the most topped the table xP
It does make sense…. nice perspective to think about.
A person who is is climbing to touch the zenith of the Mount Everest , his mind speaks first and then bofy follows specially the last 1500 meters. If someone think that he or she the controller og self , is probably a general misconception. Your support backend staff was playing his or her role but the person who was indirectly trying to cool down your temporary pchycological depression is also having deeper impact in psyche. . So actions of life follow words.
Nice !!!! 🙂
Thanks
Validation is ok my friend…we've all been there. Be Well.
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Hmmmmm… Words with action
Absolutely !!! 🙂
Really didn't think this way. In this world of fake busy, words equals the precious time and attention. An action in itself 🙂
Thanks
🙂 yup
Not this lady. I only believe in actions. Everything else is static.
The actions of another person regarding your situation is useless. Because the situation along with the emos belong to you, then so does the accountability factor ( what part did I play in this) and the responsibility factor (what can I do in this moment to repair, replenish or recycle this to a newness)…just my mind thoughts about yours.
Your mind thoughts do go in line with mine.
I feel so many times, my situations are best tackled by me. And I know too exactly what is to be done.
The only thing I look forward to are words at that time. Someone telling me, what I already know 🙂
Human psychology.. Words Can Fool Your Heart But Actions Can Change Your Situation *watch 3idiots 'All Is Well' * . Like If You Just Keep Talking About Success Without Working Hard Its Of No Use.
Actions speak just as loud as words.
Anyone who is making a difference. Anyone who reaches for you. is a true friend 🙂
I think that what a person does for you, not as directed by u, but on there own, is what speaks louder.
I think words have a very profound affect on people, and in a lot of instance more so then actions.
I'd say it all depends on the situation.
When someone does it for you, you are disempowered, they are doing it. When someone stand beside you and encourages you and gives you the tools and skills to help yourself you are empowered. Education is empowerment. We consider it theory. Words that teach us to help ourselves. Any motivational speaker will tell you the right words spoken at the right time has great power.
You think too much and analyse things too much lol
well it does make sense but then let's not over look the fact that comforting you is an action,it only makes sense to incline to the one worried about you rather than the situation,and in my own way those words "actions speak louder than words" actually mean give me attention don't say you gonna give me attention
I think the saying works vice versa, depending on the situation one finds him/herself.