This year I became more of who I am meant to be. This didn’t happen because I reached more goals, or achieved a new level of success, or found more love in my life. Yes, those happened, but they were byproducts of me being authentic with myself. This year was more about letting go of who I thought I needed to be in order to allow who I really am to shine through.

I learned that to create something new, it’s a wise idea to let something go.

Sometimes, we have to let go of who we think we are, release beliefs, habits, and fears that no longer work so we can step into our future self, the version of us so patiently waiting for us to arrive.  This year I let go of thinking I have to have it all figured out to move ahead.


I learned that sometimes dreams manifested into reality are not at all like what they seemed in our head—sometimes they can be better than we thought, but only when we let go of expectations. Other times dreams manifested are just that: dreams that no longer feel like dreams because we’ve outgrown them. Sometimes we become the person who is bigger than what we once thought possible.

Yes, goals are nice to have, but living life in the moment is more meaningful. The process of achieving our goals can sometimes derail us and numb us from living in the moment. This year I stopped trying so hard. The moment is where the reward is. I learned the power of letting go of tomorrow and being fully present, alive and focused, in today.

I learned that getting what you want is not always the same as getting what you truly need.

I learned the value of having big dreams and being unapologetic about my desires, while other times it’s okay to not have any desires at all.

I released resistance. I stopped trying to make things happen prematurely; instead, I learned how to surrender to what is instead of pushing to live out what I think might be. I had discovered the art of allowing, of trusting that everything happens for a reason and the timing of everything is perfectly orchestrated by the divine. I learned how to relax into my life and let most things be.

I re-learned that not everyone will like you, but I don’t need others to like me for me to like myself. I learned that other people are never judging me the way I judge myself. My perceptions will always shape my reality.

I learned that life is a balancing act of holding on and letting go, and how my life feels is always more important than how it looks.


I learned that I can make a difference one moment, one person at time. I don’t have to save the world, heal, or fix anyone. I just need to focus on healing myself. I learned that everyone matters; no matter how small or insignificant we may feel we all have a story that needs to be heard and we all have a purpose and reason for being.

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About The Author

Shannon Kaiser
Shannon is an inspirational author, speaker, travel writer, and life coach who left her successful career in advertising to follow her heart and be a writer. Her unique and adventurous take on self-help inspires people to take risks and embrace the unknown so they may live openly and courageously from their heart. Her website was named top 100 self-help blogs and top 75 Personal Growth websites on the Internet by the Institute for the Psychology of Eating.


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