9 Reasons Why You Should Spend More Time Alone With Yourself

 May 05, 2017

9 Reasons Why You Should Spend More Time Alone With Yourself

And by taking the time to be alone with yourself, to breathe in and breathe out without the need to force yourself into saying another word or thinking another thought, you will understand what Ausonius meant when he said: “He who does not know how to be silent will not know how to speak.”

 

8. You learn how to honor and respect yourself.

Most people are so used to begging for approval and validation from outside of them, so busy looking for love in all the wrong places, that they can no longer connect with that side of them that knows that they already are enough.

That’s why they stay in relationships that make them unhappy, in environments that are toxic, jobs that they hate and so on, thinking that they aren’t worthy of more. And the beautiful thing about spending more time alone with yourself is that it will teach you to honor and “Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.” ~ Robert Tew.

Boosting your self-image and self-esteem so that you will no longer allow anything or anyone to make you feel like you are not enough – good enough, smart enough, worthy enough, beautiful enough, etc..

 

9. You learn how to let go.

One of the hardest things in life is to let go of the people, memories, things, experiences and places we love the most. We hold on to everything and everyone so tightly, fearing that without that to which we cling, we will be nothing. Failing to realize that our attachment interferes with the love we have for that which we cling to, taking away from the purity and the beauty that love has to offer.

But as you spend more time alone in your own company, opening your heart and connecting with your inner wisdom at a deeper level, you will be able to distinguish between true love and attachment. And as time goes by, you will understand that true Love liberates.

It doesn’t just hold—that’s ego. Love liberates. It doesn’t bind. Love says, ‘I love you. I love you if you’re in China. I love you if you’re across town. I love you if you’re in Harlem. I love you. I would like to be near you. I’d like to have your arms around me. I’d like to hear your voice in my ear. But that’s not possible now, so I love you. Go.’” ~ Dr. Maya Angelou

~love, Luminita 💫

** What is one thing you love about spending time alone in silence?


Originally appeared on Purposefairy.com 

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2 comments on “9 Reasons Why You Should Spend More Time Alone With Yourself

  1. Thinking and.. I might be a weird persona, in an awesome way.. I guess I can sense emotions in people.. In the beginning I was reacting to those emotions as a mirror. If someone was negative I would turn negative very quickly..I decided and learned hopefully that I should stop acting like an on/off switch and not take anyone seriously.. And I’ very anxious to communication.. I listen only when I really have to.. It’s small talk, shitting..I was thinking about my emotions today and.. I can not seem to find difference between love and mercy.. I have mercy for MANY things but love? I have strong compassion yet I can turn aggressive towards abusers in an instant not caring for notional law or consequence.. I will have to work on this, because abusers have been abused.. I am a healer.. I tend to sense vibes from distance, I’m perceptive, I find patterns.. I get to feel like the other person.. Then I emotionally dive into themselves for the time being I am with them to heal them.. I think that is my purpose, I love doing that. When I sense the person is in denial I tend to make them talk..Some are too stubborn to talk. Some are in denial. Some are hurt and are avoiding.. Some are aware and hate themselves for the things they have done.. Some are shocked by trauma of close lost one.. And the last one is greatest pain.. Especially for the young children that have gone through this..I get to live the life of others.. One day I’m a soldier. Other day I’m a loner. Some other day I’m a good friend.. When the person is finally ‘healed’ I tend to move on.. The problem is with the one that is not healed, the problem is I can not love easily…And I can not ever be truly myself unless I am alone, not even then lol Or all of this can be just one of the characters of mine, writing.. 😀

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