5). You are each other’s biggest cheerleader and bring out the best in each other
Genuine friends always have your best interest at heart. They want you to reach your highest potential. They will always be your biggest cheer leader.
They will also disagree with you or point out your mistakes and show some tough love if required without being mean or nasty because they want to bring out the best in you.
If you and partner are each other’s best friends and you come together for a higher purpose of supporting each other’s growth and bringing out the best in each other, your relationship will grow beautifully and flourish beyond all odds.
“Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth… Love is as love does. Love is an act of will — namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.” – M. Scott Peck
6) You embrace forgiveness and compassion
All of us falter sometimes. We have our human limitations and frailties. When we understand our own limitations and accept the human paradox of not being perfect all the times, we do not set up an unrealistic expectation of perfection for our partner as well.
We do not go finding reasons or intentions behind their mistakes. We give them the benefit of doubt knowing that they are trying their best and everyone will falter sometimes in spite of best their intentions.
Embracing forgiveness and compassion and sticking through the tough times is really the glue that holds any friendship together.
7) There is a lot more “Us” than “I” in your relationship
Have you ever been with people who make every interaction into a one up game? All interactions with them are about “I” did this and “I” did that. In relationships like that where two people are just competing with each other and trying to extract what they can from the relationship, how long do you think it will last?
One of the people in such relationships will invariably leave when they feel they are not getting what they want from the relationship.
On the other hand, if you come in a relationship where you work as a team and support each other to reach your highest potential, you grow and evolve together.
If your partner is also your best friend, there would be more “Us” and less “I in the relationship.
8) You don’t operate out of fear or insecurities or any sign of toxic codependency
Sometimes people stay in toxic relationships out of fear or insecurities or because they tolerate their loneliness very poorly.
We have been fed this juvenile idea that dependency is love. But if you have done the inner work, you would be able to differentiate between a healthy love and codependency
Healthy love happens between two mature individuals who are quite capable of being on their own but choose to be with each other out of love and not compulsion.
“Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.”- M.Scott Peck
When you have done the inner work and don’t come from a place of fear or insecurity, there are high chances that you will find someone who is on the same path of growth and evolution as you and will become your best friend on the evolutionary journey.
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