4. Having shared goals is vital.
You must figure out what you want to do with your life and how you are going to achieve your goals. At the same time, find out what your partner’s goals are so that you can help and support each other in achieving those goals.
It is not mandatory that both of you should think and function in the same way, otherwise it is not true love. However, if your interests and goals are more or less the same, it will help you understand each other. Additionally, it will also help you both in achieving those goals and make the most out of your lives together.
5. Do not feel victimized.
You are the controller of your life. And oftentimes, to be a victim or not to be is our choice.
If you are in a relationship where your partner does not care about your physical or mental well-being, then leave that relationship. Do not stick around trying to change an irreparable situation and be a victim. Your life and your sanity is your own, and only you can bring about a change in it.
“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” — Mahatma Gandhi
Victimhood is not attractive to healthy people. Not only that, you are not a victim. You are in control. Take it.
6. Your life should have a purpose.
Every person’s life should have a purpose, including you. Your only focus should not be your relationship. Now, don’t get me wrong, giving your relationship priority is a good thing, but it shouldn’t be your only priority. You should be your first and foremost priority and you must live with purpose.
You can be a person who makes things happen or a person to whom things happen. Which do you want?
Living with purpose is about doing the tough things, and then reaping the rewards. When you sit with your feelings instead of eating them, or watching mindless TV or drinking five beers, you can get past them, understand them, and process them. When you go to the gym to re-energize, relieve anxiety, and get strong, you give yourself an immeasurable gift. When you eat healthy to fuel your body you can be present in mind, body, and spirit for your family, friends, partner, and yourself.
When you are in a loving relationship, you might want to spend all your time with your partner. Even though that is quite natural, you need some alone time too. This will help you from getting lost in the relationship and losing yourself in the process.
7. If you are getting hurt all the time, it’s not true love.
True love can never hurt you, and even if it does at times, it will always try to make things right. If you are with the right person, and he says something hurtful to you, he will always try to rectify the situation once he realizes his mistake.
Having arguments is a normal part of every relationship, but whether you are letting those arguments dominate your relationship is the real question. If your partner is giving you ample emotional support, you will see that you are able to overcome anything.
At the end of the day, it is not always about winning or losing an argument. It is about loving each other enough to get through every obstacle.
“Someone who truly loves you sees what a mess you can be, how moody you can get, and how hard you can be to handle but still wants you.”
8. True love accepts you as you are.
If your partner is asking or rather demanding you to give up doing all those things that you love doing, that is not true love. Your true love will always motivate you and push you to be the best version of yourself. They are never going to impose their decisions on you and expect you to abide by them, just because you love them. One of the most important lessons for finding true love is to accept your partner as they are.
True love might be hard to find, but if you hold on just a bit longer, you will see that it’s just around the corner. Always remember that the person who loves you truly will always keep you happy, no matter what.