Usually, failure is not as big a deal as your mind makes it out to be. You ask a girl out, she says no… and life goes on. You feel bad about it for a few days, and within 2 weeks you no longer really remember it much. And beyond that…
The little failures are necessary to improve your skills. Failing in one conversation is not nearly as bad as the consequences of avoiding taking risks in general.
5. Theycan’t deal with fear and other emotions
An intelligent person’s strength is often their logic, which means their weakness is emotions. When it comes to dealing with emotions… a lot of smart people become totally uncomfortable. Maybe they start to run away from the emotions… especially fear. Fear of being rejected, fear of opening up and connecting with others, and so on.
Since they are poor controlling emotions, intelligent people are highly likely to end up in conflict with others. Because they know the value of good ideas and how bad ideas can ruin the project. So, when they try to correct people, it is taken as a personal offence, which can have terrible consequences at some point.
They may be perfectionists. These people may have very high expectations of themselves about everything they do. When they think they have failed at anything, they judge themselves very harshly. Therefore, intelligent people have poor social skills.
6. They are nervous and tongue-tied.
When you are genuinely not interested in people with small talks, it is impossible to continue a conversation with someone. If they think they are failing at small talk, they just get even more nervous and tongue-tied. Their harsh self-judgment makes them so anxious that they cannot relax and simply enjoy being with other people.
Intelligent people are quite uncomfortable revealing personal info to people whom they don’t know well. Well, that’s pretty logical because you need to build that trust before you open up to someone. Also, intelligent people are cautious about revealing their vulnerabilities. However, they like to learn from their mistakes and change their behaviour in response to failures. But, it is this cautious behaviour that leads to poor social skills.
7. They invest time in thinking about serious matters
Ordinary topics may bore intelligent people like hell. They may be very serious people and believe that they should only spend their time thinking about serious matters and talking about matters of serious concern.
They may believe that talking about unimportant things is a waste of time. This makes them get bored very quickly with small talk that doesn’t seem to lead anywhere.
Being highly intelligent, you may often find it tough to find common ground with people. People listening to may not be able to relate to your ideas and opinions. You may be enthusiastic about the latest discoveries in robotics and artificial intelligence, and get bored when people are talking about movies or back bitching about others.
8. They don’t want to spend time with average people
In some cases, people who are smarter than average actually feel superior to others and believe they should not waste their time with average people having average conversations. But, when they talk to other intelligent people and speak about intellectual matters they get overly heated and enthusiastic, which forces people to think that intelligent people are aggressively opinionated.
Anyone can learn to handle and even MASTER their emotions (even fear)…if they just take the time and effort to learn HOW to do it.
If this is you, then do yourself a favour please… take the time. Take the effort. What matters is you doing the things that YOU need to do FOR YOU.