Usually, failure is not as big a deal as your mind makes it out to be. You ask a girl out, she says no… and life goes on. You feel bad about it for a few days, and within 2 weeks you no longer really remember it much. And beyond that…
The little failures are necessary to improve your skills. Failing in one conversation is not nearly as bad as the consequences of avoiding taking risks in general.
5. They Can’t Deal With Fear And Other Emotions
An intelligent person’s strength is often their logic, which means their weakness is emotions.
When it comes to dealing with emotions… a lot of smart people become totally uncomfortable . Maybe they start to run away from the emotions… especially fear. Fear of being rejected, fear of opening up and connecting with others, and so on.
They may be perfectionists. These people may have very high expectations of themselves about everything they do. When they think they have failed at anything, they judge themselves very harshly.
6. If they think they are failing at small talk, they just get even more nervous and tongue tied.
Their harsh self judgment makes them so anxious that they cannot relax and simply enjoy being with other people.
7. They may be very serious people and believe that they should only spend their time thinking about serious matters and talking about serious matters.
They may believe that talking about unimportant things is a waste of time. This makes them get bored very quickly with small talk that doesn’t seem to lead anywhere.
8. In some cases, people who are smarter than average actually feel superior to others and believe they should not waste their time with average people having average conversations.
Anyone can learn to handle and even MASTER their emotions (even fear)…if they just take the time and effort to learn HOW to do it.
If this is you, then do yourself a favor please… take the time. Take the effort. What matters is you doing the things that YOU need to do FOR YOU.
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