7 Ways People Who Have Been Emotionally Abused Love Differently

7 Ways People Who Have Been Emotionally Abused Love Differently

Of course, we hope it won’t be reminiscent of the past, but we do assume the worst longer than most. It’s simply a coping mechanism and one that works for many of us.


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7 Ways People Who Have Been Emotionally Abused Love Differently
7 Ways People Who Have Been Emotionally Abused Love Differently

22 thoughts on “7 Ways People Who Have Been Emotionally Abused Love Differently”

  1. Avatar of Angel

    I was hurt so badly by people that I don’t even trust my own family any longer. I don’t trust co-workers and I certainly don’t trust strangers. It is a sad and lonely existence all alone in my head. What else can I do?

  2. Avatar of Arvika

    I agree with Loretta and Sue. If you are young and vulnerable and depending on your parents … it is horrible… who would believe me?
    I also agree with Brandon, I acted very introvert. Some even believed I had some kind of autism (not that there is something wrong with autism, but to show how much one can change and turn into herself…). Still having problems with getting close friends, trusting people. My Mother never accepted the way I was (honest, creative, eager to know what was going on in the world, sociable, intelligent, and above all: having the guts and the will and the opportunity to go to college) – I know a lot arose from envy… But I only started understanding that a few years ago…. Thing is She still aims to change me and interfere with my life… (I am 44) — It took years before becoming the person who was inside of me. I am happy now. I have two loving persons in my life: my husband and my Dad.

  3. Avatar of lostforever

    And still after all that we still give it a try and get hurt all over again ! and say to ourself you are an idiot to think that it can actually work for you. I am a freaking idiot !

  4. Avatar of H.S.H

    How can I learn to not express my feelings/flaws/ and other emotional traits so easily? I’m a person who speaks before realizing what I’m saying. I’m currently going through a divorce with a man who has manipulated/abused me for almost 6 yrs. He is also only the 2nd man I’ve ever been with. I know getting back into the ‘dating’ seen is going to be difficult already, I’m just afraid I will trust the wrong man AGAIN. I cannot go through it again, I cannot put my little boy through that again.

  5. Avatar of Loretta Miles Tollefson

    I’d love to see some posts specifically about impact of (and how to heal from) emotional abuse suffered as a child. While this was helpful, this seemed to be more from an adult relationship perspective.

    1. Avatar of Sue

      The first time I clearly remember my Mother messing with my head I was 10, now 40 years later it’s still there (like it was yesterday) we have a bizarre relationship, I know what she’s doing, she thinks I’m still in her game but mentally when I have to be in her company I pretend I’m curled up safe with my Nan, no one hurts me there. Because of my abnormal childhood and total lack of love and care from one of the two people who are supposed to be conditioned to love me no matter what, I have a tendency to get into relationships with Mother types because basically I’m desperate for her (type) to love me, I now realise what I’m doing and avoid dating all together. Yes I would love to be in a real relationship with a man as awesome as my Daddy, but as I have his love I don’t crave it. You don’t heal from that, you learn to live with it. In case you are wondering, I have a 21 year old daughter and being a Mother is as natural to me as breathing, from the first moment I felt her move inside me, I knew I would love and protect her until my dying day and she knows it! It’s just a shame her Father is just like The Mother, but that’s another story…

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