But he will have a thousand more “options,” just like her, and when she comes (back) to you, she will be thinking of him. You have two choices here: be her second choice, or be the “jerk” she’s lusting for. Well, three choices I guess. You could also just walk away.
Choice two is by far the best one here. Take care of yourself. Eat well. Lift weights. Be successful and educate yourself. I take this whole thing back—if she wants the bad boy, be the bad boy. Hopefully, you can do this without becoming a d*ck.
Want to know more about how you should avoid some women based on the signs they show? Read 7 Ways Women Act That Push Men Away
5. The Girl Who Doesn’t Love You In Return
Have you read that love language book? No? Read it! Learn what it means and what it feels like to be loved. You are not there just to buy her flowers and rub her back and take her to nice dinners and buy her a pretty dress and compliment her and learn her favorite dance and make all of her dreams come true. She has to reciprocate the love and it has to be in a way that you value and appreciate.
If she doesn’t “love” you in the way that you recognize, things will go badly. You’ll resent her or you’ll pity yourself. The good news is, if she really does love you, you two can talk it out and she can learn to do the things that show how much she appreciates you.
But if after a long period of time the relationship seems one-sided, well, it probably is. It takes work, but it has to come from both sides. This one is tough, but if she doesn’t love you back, walk away.
6. The Jaded Girl
This poor girl has been severely let down by a man in her past (or several). Some man walked out on her when she needed him. He abused her. He cheated on her. He used her or he lied to her. She hasn’t forgotten and she hasn’t moved on. In her eyes, all men are the devil. You look great to her, but she’s always waiting for you to reveal your true colors. She doesn’t just anticipate it; she expects it.
Until she forgives the man (men) of her past and moves beyond it, she will never truly lower her guard enough to love again. She will never be vulnerable. You will always be just outside her circle of passion. She will second-guess what you tell her. She will be suspicious of your friends. She will make you feel like you’ve done something wrong until you can’t take it anymore.
I don’t know how, but some girls can move past a bad past relationship, some can’t. If you see evidence that she is the latter, get out now. Find a sweet girl whose heart is full of hope and chase your dreams together.
Want to know more about how you should avoid some women? Read 5 Insecurities Women Need To Stop Projecting Onto Their Relationship
7. The Pet-Project Girl
This girl thinks she can make you into the man of her dreams. You are just close enough to what she’s always wanted, and with just a little time and motivation (manipulation?) she can turn you into “The Best” version of yourself.
No! No! No! If you have to change, even a little bit for her to love you, don’t do it! I will say it again. If she can’t love you as you are, she doesn’t love you!
Be yourself and the right one will find you. Be yourself. Be yourself. Be yourself! Give her the truth and let her decide.
So, I’m going to end this by contradicting myself completely. All of these girls can change and all of these girls deserve to find the love that you are searching for as well.