Men are different than women. Period. I think we all know that by now.
But do we really get that?
Women complain about how much men work but fail to understand that often a man is fulfilling his life’s purpose through his work or providing for his family, which is often his way of showing love.
It is easier for women to understand this need when you can communicate how important your work is, not only to you as a confident, contributing member of society, but as a part of the partnership and the future you are building together.
If she understands the meaning of your work, she will naturally be more understanding.
Women feel the love in the emotional realm. Men feel the love in the physical realm. Having sex twice a month does not cut it. Nor does “just showing up.”
Men want to feel connected and sex is the primary way they experience that. Help your partner to understand this by talking with her about how you feel connected and loved when you have sex.
Show her lots of non-sexual physical love as well by hugging her often or just reaching out and holding her hand.
6. Connection with their kids
Women have traditionally been the primary caregiver of children and for the most part still, carry a lot of the weight when caring for children.
However, what often happens is women brush off men’s attempts to help because they feel they can do it better. Don’t allow her to ‘sit you on the bench” when it comes to the kids.
Let her know she deserves some time alone or time with her friends because she works so hard, and create a space for you to connect with the kids.
7. To add value
Men by nature are problem solvers.
Women just like to share, to talk things through and to feel heard. If you can shift your understanding to know that by simply being present and actively listening to your partner, you are adding value, then you will be miles ahead of most.
Value does not always come in the form of action or solution. After you have listened and heard you can say, “Babe, that is really frustrating. I thought of something that might help you. Are you interested or do you just need an ear right now?” Now that is adding golden value!
You have a lot of power to create freedom and happiness in your relationship. They key is understand that having needs does not make you needy, they make you human. The most effective way to relationship success is for you to start sharing them with your partner.
Action – share this article and discuss it with your partner. Ask him/her what their needs are. Do these accurately capture yours? Are there others?
Just imagine how good things will get when your needs are being met.
Written By: Diane Taylor
Originally appeared in goodmenproject.com
Printed With Permission
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