5. Being the problem solver…always.
“Be her hero and love her even during those times when she despises herself.” – Abhijit Naskar
There’s something she wants you to understand as her boyfriend. When she talks to you about her problems or complains about things that are bothering her, she is mostly expressing her frustrations and letting things out of her system. She is not asking you to be her hero and solve her problems for her. When she does, she will specifically ask you for your opinions. But unless she does, just be there and hear her out. That’s all she wants.
But as men tend to be natural problem-solvers, this can be a bit difficult for us to understand. Our intentions are pure and we just want to help her out. But we need to realize that she only needs us to support her as she solves her own problems.
The reason why she is telling you all this is because she trusts you enough to be vulnerable with you. You are already her hero. You don’t need to prove anything. Talk to her openly and let her figure things out on her own.
6. Not taking charge enough.
“A man must at times be hard as nails: willing to face up to the truth about himself, and about the woman he loves, refusing compromise when compromise is wrong. But he must also be tender. No weapon will breach the armor of a woman’s resentment like tenderness.” – Elisabeth Elliot
Amidst gender equality and being chivalrous, men have become highly confused about how to behave with women. Our instincts tell us to behave in a particular way while society expects us to behave in a certain way. And all this can have an effect on our relationships.
The key is to find a balance that allows you to be the man you are while respecting your partner as an equal individual.
However, all this confusion can make most men take a step back in the relationship to allow her to make important decisions. Why? Because we believe that’s what she wants. We believe she enjoys making plans for our dates, she enjoys taking charge of the relationship, she enjoys leading us towards a happier tomorrow.
Only she doesn’t. She wants to make her own decisions, not yours. She wants equal decision-making power in the relationship, not to lead it. She is still a woman and she wants you to treat her like one. She wants you to step up, take charge and be ‘The Man’. Lead your relationship. Take charge. Man up.
7. Being unemotional and dispassionate.
Just like being overly affectionate can be a problem, showing too little emotion or being inexpressive can also push her away. Some men believe that being too emotional can make them appear weak to their women. So they tend to keep their emotions to themselves and completely close themselves off.
Although women prefer emotionally stable men, they don’t want to spend the rest of their lives with a heartless tin man. You need to find the perfect balance between being emotionally strong and being empathetic and compassionate to your girlfriend.
Women Want To Be Loved
“A real man never stops trying to show a girl how much he cares, even if he already has her.” – Mitch Cuento
It’s not that hard to know what women want. They just want you to love her, respect her, appreciate her, give her your attention, care for her and cherish her. All these things come naturally when you truly love her. As long as you see her as your equal, you can surely build a happy, long-term relationship with your girlfriend. Of course, you will make a few mistakes along the way and you will piss her off a LOT.