It’s high time that you stop aggravating your girlfriend and understand what women want and don’t want.
7 Things You Do That Your Girlfriend Hates
1. Being overly attached.
An unhealthy attachment to your girlfriend can make your relationship toxic sooner than you can expect. Being too loving and affectionate to your girlfriend can put her off and push her away. Too much PDA or getting too handsy can make her feel uncomfortable as well.
Instead of assuming that she likes to be adored and smothered, emotionally and physically, spend more time with your girl and try to understand her love style. Make her feel comfortable around you instead of making her feel smothered. Take things slow and observe how she reacts to you getting closer. If she is comfortable and welcoming, then you have her permission to show your affection.
If she is visibly uncomfortable or turns away, then you need to back off. It’s your responsibility to make her feel happy about the relationship. Take it as slow as she wants or you might lose her forever. Consent matters.
2. Being too nice.
“Just because you are a nice guy, doesn’t mean you are a good man.” – Zyanya Torres
There’s a difference between being a “nice guy” and a “good man”. A nice guy agrees with his woman all the time in the hope that she will like him. Nice guys act “nice” in the expectation of getting something back in return and when their expectations are not met, they either nag or throw a temper tantrum.
Good men are “good” because that’s who they are. A good man loves his girlfriend and knows what she deserves. He treats her with respect and love while taking his own stand and maintaining his self-esteem.
Women understand this subtle difference very well and they can smell a nice guy from a mile away. Women don’t like men who put their self-respect on the line just to get approval from the opposite sex. She simply hates it when you hesitate to express your true feelings and thoughts and become excessively accommodating.
Be a good man. Not a nice guy. Have you ever heard of a good man finishing last?
3. Not giving her space.
“There is not a woman born who desires to eat the bread of dependence.” – Susan B. Anthony
Texting her a cute message every hour or sending her a bunch of memes you found funny every single day is not a great way to develop an attraction. Being available all the time is not a good idea.
You need to give your girlfriend some space. You need to leave her alone. Let her do her thing and come to you when she wants to. Attract. Don’t pursue all the time.
It’s okay to check in on your girlfriend from time to time and send her a sweet message once in a while, but you need to understand that she has a busy life and needs time to herself. She can’t keep checking all your messages and reply to all your texts.
Have an honest conversation about boundaries and figure out things that are left unsaid. Don’t assume that if you don’t text her every 5 minutes she will forget about you. The frequency of communication is crucial in this era of social media.
4. Being friends with her squad.
It’s great that you have a good rapport with your partner’s friends and even their family. This can help you significantly when developing a healthy and lasting relationship. If you intend to marry your special lady, then getting along nicely with her favorite people will make things a lot easier in the future.
However, you need to realize that they are her family and friends. And you have your own social circle.
Contrary to what you may believe, getting too close with her gang of friends or her family may feel like you are intruding on her personal life. When you build your own relationships with others in her life, your partner may feel smothered and overwhelmed. You need to maintain some healthy space and be comfortable around her people at the same time.