As we become better at expressing our inner feelings, a natural next step is to begin speaking about our needs and preferences—needs for touch, words of affirmation, sexual needs, how we spend time together, needs for separate time, and how we feel valued and special.
This practice has big payoffs, primarily in the form of a deeper understanding of who we are and who our partner is.
It results in that sweet feeling of being known and loved as we are, and the strong trust that we can talk about whatever is on our mind and in our heart. It is tremendously freeing to deal with difficult subjects that were once avoided because they seemed too dangerous.
The ultimate goal is to have no areas that we can’t address in some fashion. It is likely that we will make numerous attempts to know each other, and find that a lot of feelings come up because of the tender material there. But as trust builds, the ease with which we can touch formerly taboo subjects increases.
“Real intimacy; real love has to do with a joining of the mind, a joining of the spirit, a joining of the heart.” – Marianne Williamson
With some topics, it may never actually get easy; it may remain daunting. But it is progress if we notice that there is a bit more breathing room, less fear and reactivity, and more understanding. The rawness of being on the edge of the discovery of self and others is an acquired taste. It is a bit scary, but the excitement, enthusiasm, aliveness, enjoyment, and vitality make it worth the risk and effort. Don’t take my word for it; try it and find out for yourself.
Here’s an interesting video on how to have long loving relationships as a couple:
As they say, you fall in love by chance, but stay in love by choice. Hence, we need to make an effort as a couple to keep the love and romance alive in our relationship. It will not only make us feel a lot more alive, we will also experience a whole new level of closeness and intimacy.
So make sure you follow the tips shared above, take enough loving actions and open yourself up on an emotional level to your partner. And you will once again experience the same romantic spark you once enjoyed as a couple.
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