4. Dads turn out to be their children’s superheroes while fathers are more likely a symbol of fear.
Dads thanks to their perks of personality and their essential, holistic goodness, end up becoming their children’s superheroes. They end up becoming the image the children want to grow up to emulate. This means they must be successful and happy themselves.
Being a dad comes with the added responsibility of being at peace with yourself too. This is because happiness and peacefulness is contagious, and kids are quick to pick up on things like this.
Fathers, on the other hand, summarizing Freud, end up becoming something of an ever-present symbol of fear. They end up personifying frightening punishments in the child’s subconscious.
Freud’s patient known popularly as the Ratman, exhibited fantasies in which his father personified all kinds of vile torture.
Keeping psychoanalysis aside, fathers might or might not end up living up to the ideals that come easy to dads. This is because they do not consider the experience of child-rearing to be as rewarding as it actually is.
5. Fathers are judgmental while a dad understands.
A very appropriate metaphor for this whole conundrum between dads and fathers could be in the largest selling book in the world: The Holy Bible. God in the Old Testament, is a father.
He is always angry, killing cattle and cursing characters who disobey him even in the slightest of ways. He personifies law at that stage. Not exactly pleasant.
In the New Testament, however, thanks to the love of Jesus Christ, God becomes more similar to a dad. He is merciful, forgiving and personifies love among human beings.
He is soft and does not curse human beings. He disciplines them, but also gives them an outlet for mercy. Dads, hence, are by nature, non-judgmental. They never forget the fact that they too were your age someday; as a result, in case you make a mistake, they help you out. They pick you up, dust you and hug you and ready you for the next day.
Fathers might just be judgmental. They might just expect outlandish things from you and might be very vocal about their disappointment with you if you fail to live up to their standards.
6. While a dad will accept a child’s flaws, a father might show rejection if their expectations aren’t met.
In a world where millions of people face rejection on the basis of their personality and life choices, dads are a boon. A dad will never reject their children. He will try to understand what goes on through their heads that make them take those particular avenues in life.
Fathers might just reject their children if their notions/expectations/hopes aren’t met with.
In a world of fathers, always be a dad to your child. It is even more rewarding than you think.
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