6 Negative Words That Cripple Your Self Esteem and Empowering Words To Replace Them With

6 Negative Words That Cripple Your Self Esteem and Empowering Words To Replace Them With


4. Negative thought: always or never/Sometimes or often

When you say, “always” or “never,” you’re trying to prove a point and become position based. Your goal becomes winning instead of understanding and positive resolution.

These words encourage awfulizing and catastrophizing thoughts which deplete your energy and cause anxiety.

Instead, use these empowering words: sometimes or often

When you say, “Sometimes, often, or seldom,” you don’t box yourself in and create an opportunity for openness and acceptance.


5. Negative thought: but

When you say, “but,” it causes everything that was said or thought before it to be negated. It often has the effect of changing a neutral statement into a negative one. The word closes off the conversation space or thought process.

Instead, use this empowering word: And.

“The power you have is to be the best version of yourself you can be, so you can create a better world.”Ashley Rickards

However, when you say, “and,” it enables you and others to stay focused on your intentions and true to what you want to say or do. It allows you to remain more open and less defensive.


6. Negative thought: Try

When you say, “I try” it means that you are unsure, indecisive, disengaged from the commitment, and it makes it OK to fail without a fight.

Instead, use this empowering word: Commit.

When you say, “I commit,” though, you make a pledge that obligates you to a certain course of action. You work harder, you look for solutions when faced with obstacles, you don’t consider quitting as an option, and you don’t look back.

Commitments are empowering because they influence how you think, how you sound, and how you act.

Speaking a positive vernacular requires constant awareness.


4 strategies to help you succeed in using empowering words:

1. Be present:

When you catch yourself using disempowering words don’t shame yourself, just remember sooner next time. Consistently congratulate yourself when you use empowering words.


2. Practice:

Using positive words can become more habitual with practice. Some helpful activities include reciting positive affirmations in the morning or doing mirror exercises daily to reinforce the use of empowering words.



3. Shift:

Identify disempowering words you would like to omit from your vocabulary and focus on the empowering words that will help to reframe your perspective, feelings, or understanding of a situation.


4. Focus on the benefits:

Use self-talk to clarify how using empowering language allows you to feel healthier and more accepting.

Using these strategies habitually will enable you to replace disempowering words with a more helpful and productive dialogue.

“Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.”- Helen Keller

Any word that creates the illusion that you don’t have a choice disempowers you. Removing negative words from your vocabulary takes time, patience, and practice. It is possible and comes with great rewards.

Consciously implementing empowering words makes any situation more tolerable, broadens and builds possibilities, and opens your mind to be able to speak from a place of choice and control. It helps reframe reality so that any situation can be more tolerable and enjoyable. The option is yours.

Challenge yourself to speak with the power to bring out the best in yourself and others.

Loving yourself and treating yourself with respect and conviction is one of the best things you can for yourself. And the best way to do that is by feeding your self-esteem with positive reinforcement and empowering words. Positivity and self-love will always help you be the person you want to be, and most importantly, will give you happiness.

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Written By Jennifer Warren Medwin
Originally Appeared On Your Tango

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