Also, it’s very important to be on the same page with your partner in terms of your expectations from the relationship.
You could be looking forward to a serious relationship and he could be looking for a fling. Such mismatch of expectations is bound to create friction and confusion in the long run.
It is better to be clear about each other’s motives for being in a relationship so that you can make an informed decision about whether you want to stay in a relationship or move on. I know it can be hard to let go of someone you love, but if you see these warning signs in a relationship, it is better to tread your path carefully.
It helps to observe the reality and facts from a certain detached and distant state rather than being carried away by emotions.
“Detachment also involves accepting reality—the facts. It requires faith—in us, in God, in other people, and in the natural order and destiny of things in this world. We believe in the rightness and appropriateness of each moment. We release our burdens and cares, and give ourselves the freedom to enjoy life in spite of our unsolved problems. We trust that all is well in spite of the conflicts. We trust that someone greater than ourselves knows has ordained, and cares about what is happening. We understand that this someone can do much more to solve the problem than we can. So we try to stay out of His way and let Him do it. In time, we know that all is well because we see how the strangest (and sometimes most painful) things work out for the best and for the benefit of everyone.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
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