Not only are you gaining knowledge about them, but you are learning about yourself along the way. This gives you impactful insight into finding a powerful alignment with each other.
3. Give compliments.
Who doesn’t love a genuine compliment? Pretty much almost everyone. A compliment can go along way when you show a person you genuinely value a certain aspect of them.
A few examples:
- “I really like the blue shirt you wore last night. It’s a great color for you.”
- “Thank you for dinner. You are a great cook!”
- “You’re pretty funny. You sure know how to make me laugh.”
When you speak with honest admiration, you’ll make any mate feel like a superstar. Not only will they like you more, but it will create instant oxytocin which will keep them coming back to you. Who wouldn’t want to hear feel-good compliments?
Just keep in mind they need to be real and from a place of kindness. This is something you won’t want to fake. Schmoozing is easy to read right through and often from a place of ulterior motive. So keep it straight with your mate.
4. Ask open-ended questions.
Asking open-ended questions lets the connection grow because it shows you are taking the initiative to get to know more about them. Open-ended questions encourage people to really open up by adding more facts and emotions to their responses. They don’t just give the gist, but they tell you the whole story.
If you find yourself asking closed-ended questions, people only have to reply with one-word answers. It doesn’t give much room for the conversation to continue to flow and grow. It’s almost like you are pulling teeth to have a conversation, which is the last thing you want to happen?
Some open-ended questions include:
- “Where are you from? What was it like growing up there?”
- “What did you do over the weekend?”
- “What are you up to tonight?”
Some close-ended questions include:
- “What is your favorite food?”
- “Do you like comedy shows?”
- “Have you ever been skydiving?”
5. Be authentic.
It’s very easy to hide behind a screen and not convey the real you. Unfortunately, this won’t get you too far in building a deeper connection, once it comes time to meet in real life.
Being your most authentic self is the only way to build a bond that will last and will attract authentic people into your life. Trying to be someone you are not will actually push the person you really like in the opposite direction or attract inauthentic people. It is a complete turn-off.
Believe it or not, most people love a mate who isn’t afraid to express their honest opinions or show their emotions. It’s attractive to expose your personality when first getting to know someone, flaws and all. This is the best approach to bringing a mate closer, as you are your biggest asset to success.
When it comes to the Law of Attraction, you can only receive what you are willing to give to a mate. If you are craving more romance, being congruent with your words and actions will crucial to manifesting integrity.