You didn’t let him miss you.
You gave all of yourself to him right from the start, and then there was nothing to miss. A lot of women assume that just because a guy really wants to keep seeing them, they should let him, that they should be as available as he wants them to be.
However, my advice is to put the brakes on.
Let him have space. Let him yearn for you a little bit because that space is going to allow you to get to know each other slowly, which ultimately is better for the foundation of a solid and committed relationship.
I’ve seen it happen far too often: couples spend every waking moment together from the start. They have sex soon. Then things fizzle within weeks, and nobody knows what happened.
I know what happened. They took things too fast and suddenly the entire relationship just burns up into flames.
On the other hand, controlling the speed of how things happen is completely in your hands, and it absolutely is one of the secrets to how to make him miss you. Maybe the first few weeks, you decide you’ll only see him on weekends, and never stay the night. Over time, you might have a sleepover every few weeks.
That can increase as you get closer, but always be prepared to have time off from one another, or go home after a date rather than crashing at his house.
Kelley Johnson, PhD, a clinical sexologist based in North Carolina, says to have the conversation about the speed of your relationship early:
“Talking about [your boundaries] early on and making sure your partner is on the same page and has an understanding of who you are is so important.”
Setting boundaries early keeps you from hurting his feelings later when you say you want some space, or want to give him some. But you’ll both benefit from it.
He’ll miss you, I guarantee.
5. Leave a Little Mystery in the Conversation
Being mysterious makes him want you more.
Now, there’s a reason why when we watch a trailer for a movie we can’t wait to watch the movie. Because we get, of course, a taste of what the movie is all about but we have no idea what the whole full picture is about. We certainly don’t know how it ends.
The same thing happens when you’re first getting to know a new guy. (This is especially true if you’re using dating apps, where there is, for some reason, a propensity for grilling every man and getting as much detail about his life, career, and history as possible before even that first date!)
You don’t need to tell him your three biggest life accomplishments on that first date. Spread it out a little bit.
Keep him wanting more.
Maybe you mention how you broke your arm in 12th grade, but then say well, that’s a story for another date!
That makes him look forward to the next time you’re together when he can ask you about that crazy scar on your elbow.