The same thing happens when you’re first getting to know a new guy. (This is especially true if you’re using dating apps, where there is, for some reason, a propensity for grilling every man and getting as much detail about his life, career, and history as possible before even that first date!)
You don’t need to tell him your three biggest life accomplishments on that first date. Spread it out a little bit.
Keep him wanting more.
Maybe you mention how you broke your arm in 12th grade, but then say well, that’s a story for another date!
That makes him look forward to the next time you’re together when he can ask you about that crazy scar on your elbow.
It can be tempting to lay it all out on the table at once: relationship history, funny family stories, why you love your job…I get it. You’re bonding with this man, and you want him to know everything there is to know about you, and vice versa.
But doling out this data over time helps keep the relationship moving at a slow, steady pace (see #4), and always gives you more to talk about.
And when he believes there’s more depth to you, when he knows he wants to keep seeing you… he’s going to miss you. He’s going to want to dive into that complex person that is you, even if you only give him a nugget at a time.
Conclusion: How to Make Him Miss You? Stop Trying So Hard
When considering how to make him miss you the most, realize that if you put less attention into that area and simply focused on being the best girlfriend possible, that in and of itself will make him miss you and your attention.
It’s all about being confident in who you are and knowing you’re so completely missable that he’d be insane not to yearn for you when you’re apart.
Also, ask yourself why you’re so concerned about him missing you. Do you feel insecure about the future of your relationship? Is there cause for those feelings, or do you just need to feel more certain of him?
It may be that you don’t have enough fulfilling activities and interests in your life, and now you’re desperate to know you have his attention when you aren’t together. In that case, as I said in #2, get a life. What did you enjoy doing before you met, or even when you were young and had more free time?
It might be time to take up crocheting, hiking, or salsa dancing. These are all hobbies that, should he not be around, can occupy your brain and hands.
And you never know; he may be missing you and just not telling you. But it takes two to tango; make sure you’re communicating that you miss him, and he’ll be sure to reciprocate.
Here’s what I want you to take away from this article and video today:
There are five essential ways you can make him miss you. They are ridiculously effective when it comes to pulling on his heartstrings and keeping him all yours.
Watch this video, “How to Make a Guy Miss You,” to find out what they are.
Juliet was right: parting really is “such sweet sorrow.”
The feeling of longing and passion that happen when you miss your special someone can be part of the super-glue that keeps your relationship together.
Science backs this up, actually. Because being with someone you love produces a surge of serotonin and dopamine. The more time he spends with you, the more addicted to that surge he becomes. When he’s not with you, his body craves those chemicals.
So there you have it. Time apart = him going into withdrawal for you.
Basically, if he’s yearning for you, then you’re doing things right.
So… how do you like men to show you that they miss you? Let me know by leaving a comment below.