Sounds funny, but it’s true.
And while you’re at it, assess your own need for space.
If you find that you never ever want space from him, it’s time for you to start finding your own space anyway. It’s not healthy for couples to spend all their time together. It can cause you to neglect your friends, family, and self. You can start to rely too much on this man (and, in my mind, you always need just a dose of independence for yourself) and lose your identity.
So even if you don’t want space for yourself, it’s good for you both, and it’s one of the easiest ways to make him miss you.
Find things that you can do instead of looking lovingly into his eyes all day. Create your own little space away from him. It could be as simple as reading every morning with your coffee, even if you two live together. Or taking a vacation on your own.
The more space you both have, the more you’ll miss one another and have lots to talk about when you connect again. And it’ll set the course for a healthy marriage when the time comes.
Not all married couples prioritize alone time; 29% say they don’t have enough alone time or time for themselves. This is easily preventable if you take the time to carve out time independent of one another, so know that doing so now is a great relationship practice for down the road.
3. Stop Trying to Make Him Miss You
You’re trying too hard, lady.
Look, men aren’t stupid. We know when women are subtly (or not-so-subtly) trying to get our attention.
If, when you’re apart, you’re doing the following things, this isn’t how to make him miss you. It is, however, a good way to annoy him and even push him away. And it’s juvenile. You’re not 17. You can do better.
- Tagging him in photos on Facebook, even if he wasn’t with you when you took them
- Sending him a Snapchat every ten minutes to get his attention
- Texting his friends to see what they’re up to
- Posting pictures with other guys on Instagram to make him a little jealous
The best way to make him miss you is…
Wait for it…
To be absent. You’re not really absent if you’re popping up on social media or text every five seconds. When you’re apart, go away.
I mean that with love, my dear. But you don’t need to constantly pop up in his feed for him to think about you and make him miss you. The less you’re around, the more likely he is to reach out to get your attention.
But don’t just sit around with your arms crossed, willing him to miss you. Get a life. Find things to do. That way you’ll have much to talk about, and you won’t be sitting around, hoping he’ll text.
4. Move Slower Than He Wants
Set the slow pace for your relationship.
I know where you went wrong.
You didn’t take control of the pace of the relationship.