5. Become a member of regular social clubs
People that struggle with feelings of loneliness would do well to find social containers that have built-in ongoing commitments to them. That way, you can say yes to one social event, and you might actually be saying yes to 52 social events per year (if it were a weekly group)!
Find a common interest group, hobbyist group, or women’s/men’s group in your area, and commit to it.
One of the most important things that I did for myself three years ago when I was doubling down on my social life was joining a weekly men’s group (that I have now attended, every week, for the last three years). Knowing that, no matter how hermit-y of a week I had, I would always have a social container of 15-20 men who knew me and cared about me gave my life a buoyancy that I previously didn’t feel.
“There’s some people who are just very dynamic about social life, and it can be some pretty crazy stuff, but you end up meeting people you like.” – Whit Stillman
No men’s groups or common interest groups in your area that appeal to you? Did you really look closely? Alright, I trust you. If you couldn’t find what you were looking for, then the onus is on you to create the group you would most want to be in. Do that, put up a few flyers advertising your group in your city, and your people will find you.
Remember, Gandhi once said, “Be the men’s group facilitator you want to see in the world.” Or something like that.
The End Of Loneliness As You Know It
Long story short…
Extend to others. Be the social hub that you wish existed in your city. Put energy into this area of your life and it will pay off sooner than you think.
Build up your fire so that it burns so brightly that people can’t help but find it.
Everything else will take care of itself.
If you are someone who is suffering from loneliness, it might feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, but they’re absolutely is. The good news is loneliness can be fought with, and you can definitely emerge as the winner. You are a healthy, successful, and whole human being and you deserve the best that life has to offer. Why let loneliness stop you from living your best life possible?
Dedicated to your success,
If you want to know more about feeling lonely, check this video out:
Written by Jordan Gray
Originally appeared in Jordan Gray Consulting