4. You are prone to directing your anger inward:
Anger can be an empowering, useful emotion when you know how to use it.
If your anger was not accepted when you were a child, and if you were not taught how to use it, you are at risk of turning it against yourself.
5. You are inclined to the feel shame:
Growing up with CEN, the powerful message that your emotions either don’t matter or are bad can easily make you feel ashamed for having them. Yet your emotions are wired into you. You can’t have emotions. The result: shame.
And now, after all that bad news, I have some very good news for you. Now that you see and understand the effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect, you can heal it yourself.
When you do this, you will not only reduce your susceptibility to depression, you will also improve many other areas of your life as well.
3 Ways to Become Less Vulnerable to Depression
1) Start working on your CEN.
The best thing about CEN is that it can be healed. You can break through that wall that you built to block off your feelings in childhood.
You can begin to feel more varied emotions. You can learn how to use your anger in a healthy, protective way. You can learn the emotional skills that you missed.
2) Accept that your feelings are your friend.
Your emotions are a source of vitality and richness. Without them, you are living in a gray world, devoid of the color that others experience.
Reclaiming your feelings and learning to use them will connect you, relieve you and enrich you.
3) Reach out
CEN taught you to circle your wagons, but those wagons are now holding you separate. Learning to let your wagons loosen will open the world to you. With more people on your side of the wall, you will no longer feel so alone.
Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is invisible. Yet it makes you struggle with emotions throughout your adult life and makes you more prone to depression.
To find out if you are affected by CEN, take the Childhood Emotional Neglect Test.
Written by Dr. Jonice Webb
This article was originally published on Psychcentral.com and
has been republished here with the permission of the author
Source – DrJoniceWebb.com
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