3. “You are too sensitive to deal with”
Narcissists manufacture emotions in others – that’s exactly what they do.
A narcissist will shower you with the flattery, appreciation, love, and attention that you forever wished for and will suddenly disappear for days together, to keep disconnected from you.
When you finally make contacts, if you display your rage and disappointment, they will make sure to use those manufactured negative emotions on you. They will blame you for being too clingy and needy. If you’re not lucky enough, they will even tease, joke, laugh and mock at your behavior. “You are such a cry-baby.” “It is impossible to handle such a sensitive person like you.”
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Within weeks, psychopaths can turn an exceptionally easy-going person into an unrecognizable mess of insecurities and self-doubt.
4. “You never understand me.”
Every healthy relationship has miscommunication and misunderstandings from time to time. These get resolved once both have a conversation about it.
With a narcissist, things are a bit different. They will at first lie to you, stage up circumstances to prove you wrong and insane. This technique is known as gaslighting. Once you start disbelieving, questioning them, and have confidence in your own self, they will turn the blame wheel towards you.
“You think I am lying? You will never understand me.”
If you are a peace lover, you will without a doubt apologize for your behavior to reconcile as they make a quick happy dance in their mind. “I won.”
It is natural to start questioning oneself “Am I really getting crazy?” when repeatedly gaslighted but believe me you are completely fine.
5. “I hate being with a crazy/bipolar/jealous lover like you.”
According to a narcissist, every ex they ever had was a crazy, manipulator, jealous, and emotionally unstable person. They were always perfect, yet they have been exploited, used, and dumped by their exes.
Name-calling is another technique they use to take control of you. Your reaction is all they wait for. This way they get a chance to complain about how crazy you are, entirely plaguing their life and destroying their tranquil.
Once done, they won’t falter twice before tossing you in that very same “crazy” bucket, continuing their never-ending cycle of idealizing and devaluing anyone unfortunate enough to cross their path.
How do you get out of this mess?
“You cannot change a person with a narcissistic personality disorder or make them happy by loving them enough or by changing yourself to meet their whims and desires. They will never be in tune with you, never empathic to your experiences, and you will always feel empty after an interaction with them,” Grace says.
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A narcissist will never experience a fulfilling relationship, as they believe nothing is cut out to be worthy enough of them.
So the only way to get rid of these people is to go no contact.
As Grace says, “The best thing you can do is cut ties. Offer them no explanation. Offer no second chance. Break up with them and offer no second, third, or fourth chance.”
Block them out of your social media handles and from all aspects of your life. You will find it very difficult in the beginning but with time as you initiate to heal, you will understand that that was the best decision of your life. Often when narcissists are showing these loud signs, it’s a subtle premonition of what is about to come – destruction. Do not avoid these signs.
The sooner you take action, the faster you heal.
There is life after narcissistic abuse, Hold On. ― Tracy Malone