The 5 Stages of True Love Scam and How To Recover From It

The 5 Stages of True Love Scam & How To Recover From It

When we recognize that our dream man or woman is actually a monster they very often openly, boldly show us who they are. They will brazenly take more. They’ll laugh as they do it. They’ll take even more behind our back before they exit. A lot more. This is when the deeper financial damage happens. Sociopaths leave us holding the bag. They take responsibility for nothing. Meanwhile, they’ve gotten everyone around us to think they’re great.


Sociopaths and the Smear Campaign

Smearing is the final act in the five stages of love scam. This last bit is known as the smear campaign and like everything else in this nightmare, is predictable behavior of a narcissistic sociopath.

So, they’ll tell others things like we’re mentally ill or on drugs, a liar or a stalker. They might post horrible things about us online. They’ll want everyone to think we treated them badly. It’s super common for predator sociopaths or narcopaths, or whatever you’re calling them, to file restraining orders or protective orders against us or threaten to get us arrested or to become violent towards us.


Pathological Users Live in an Alternate Universe

We thought it was love, when really when we were laughing with joy at this amazing true love. They were laughing with pride at what they got away with, and how easy we are to scam. Meanwhile, they ruin us behind our backs.

We’ll find ourselves in intense anxiety and distress, this is post-traumatic stress. They want all things to seem like our fault. They paint themselves as the victim in exaggerated and ridiculous melodrama.


We Have the Power to Leave a Sociopath

They need us; we do not need them, even though very early on it felt as if we did. We must protect ourselves from their rage. Getting them out or leaving ourselves is at the top of the to-do-list, like nothing before. It’s critical that we go understand why we need to go no contact and do it as soon as we can and learn how to deal with a sociopath.

When a sociopath loses their hold on a target they get mad. When they’re threatened or feel in danger of exposure sociopaths can become violent. They do rash and irrational things to turn things around on their prey in hopes of not going to jail, being exposed or losing.

Study up, talk it out with those who know. Muster the courage to take practical action and make a complete recovery. We will survive and thrive.

Written By Jennifer Smith
Originally Appeared On Truelovescam


Love is something we all look for. We all want someone to steal our heart and sweep us off our feet. We have this innate need of someone who will take care of us, love us and tell us how special we are to them. We all want someone to connect with, to call our own. Unfortunately, there are some people who take advantage of this inherent need to feel loved and use and abuse us for their own sinister gains.

These are predators and abusers who are not just breaking our hearts and leaving us mentally bruised, they are committing a crime against love, against relationships and against humanity. But we can get over this true love scam and rebuild our lives to find the love that matters the most: self love.

You are not a victim, you are a survivor

“If you walked away from a toxic, negative, abusive, one-sided, dead-end, low vibrational relationship or friendship – you won.” – Lalah Delia

It’s easy to fall victim to such sociopaths who are hellbent on hurting you. When you open your heart to someone and all they want is to abuse you, then it can leave you scarred for a long time. But you are a survivor. Despite their best con game and all the abuse, you will emerge as a survivor. Understand that it is not your fault. You do not deserve abuse of any sort. The important thing is that you realize you have control and you can leave and create a better life for yourself. How you respond to the situation will decide how you live the rest of your life.

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