The 5 Stages of True Love Scam and How To Recover From It

The 5 Stages of True Love Scam & How To Recover From It


4. True Love Scam Requires That We Stay Hooked into the Predator

“The hardest part of being in an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s actually admitting you’re in one.” – Anna Akana

As we’re asking questions, challenging their stories they hunker down and take more, more wildly and usually behind our backs. They do things that bind us more deeply into what we still think of as a relationship so they can take more, longer. It’s our normal natural innate amazing human qualities that pique our emotions and keep us in longer.

Male sociopaths might make sure we have their children. Female sociopaths may claim they’re pregnant. They’ll ingratiate themselves to any children we already have. They’ll act kindly towards younger children – until they don’t – they can physically and emotionally assault them.

They may work to remove our children from the equation – especially older children who could influence us away from the sociopath. Female sociopaths marry and have children only as a meal ticket.

Apologies from a person of antisocial personality disorder, a sociopath, are just as rare as flying fish; and just as


5. The Spiral Down to the Ruining End

“The quiet but inexorable breaking down of self-esteem is much more sinister – it’s violation of the soul.” – Rachel Abbott

The sociopath digs deeper to ruin our lives, taking more, faster. They might not be home much anymore. Or spend the night somewhere else under some pretense. They’re not filling the gas tank anymore. They borrow money but don’t pay it back or just take money. Sex with a con artist sociopath gets strange, harder, or non-existent.

Sociopaths leave us holding the bag. They take responsibility for nothing. Meanwhile, they’ve gotten everyone around us to think they’re great.

They tell stories about where they were, why they did something or something that happened. These narcissistic types are talkers and storytellers. Their stories are full of holes and lies, but their talking and stories serve a purpose to the narcissistic sociopath.


It Ends In an Unexpected Instant

At any given moment you have the power to say, “This is not how the story is going to end.”

For most of us, one specific thing a sociopath does breaks the trance utterly. It might be a lie so obvious the façade shatters. It might be we discover of theft or another woman or children. Whatever breaks the momentum of the spell for you, trust yourself, leave, break-up, get them out, be safe.

Though I know you want one, please don’t spend time looking for an admission of wrongdoing or an apology; Apologies from a person of antisocial personality disorder are as rare as feathered fish. And just as genuine. Also, know that doubting they did what they did or are as bad as it seems is normal.


These are Crimes Rather Than Relationships

A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dream, or your dignity.

All their “relationships” (crimes) are heartless and parasitic. They do not love us, they don’t love anyone. They routinely “wine and dine” other women, or men, just as they did with us in the early stages. It’s essential for the antisocial psychopath to keep hoards of victims at a time for their current livelihood and for the upcoming months and years.

They feel no positive, connecting, human emotions; no affection, no love, no concern, no conscience. Even sex is only for control or a high for the sociopath; a primal raw drug to give them some kind of spike forms their normal dullness. Sex is relief from their flat-line boredom. Sex binds people to them. Withholding sex binds us too. Narcissistic sociopaths have no sexual boundaries.


Hello Sadness: Leave Your Shoes On Because You Aren’t the New Me

At this point, we feel horrible. Despair. Sadness. We know something is truly wrong. Take action immediately. Follow your instincts. Without their knowledge, undo any access they have to bank accounts, credit cards, or anything else you own. They know we know something is wrong. They’re working quickly to get as much as they can before they exit; we need to stop that in just the same way; behind their back.

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