5 Sneaky Ways A Narcissist Uses a DARVO Defense to Project Himself As A Victim

If these things are starting to sound familiar, you’re probably with a narcissist who will DARVO you to death if you allow it.

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Narcissism occurs on a continuum.

There are slightly narcissistic people. These are people who think they might be the smartest person in the room. They can be annoying, but also fairly harmless. You can make a case to a person like this that a 7:00 bedtime for a 10-year-old really doesn’t make sense and lay out the points so he might eventually agree.

Sometimes, he’ll remind you what an inconvenience it is — that it was your idea and that, whenever possible, you are the one who must be inconvenienced by it, not him. This is a narcissist you can probably work with.

At the other end of the continuum are the narcissists who “know” they’re always the smartest person in the room. Their needs override the needs of everyone in their orbit. You cannot discuss a change in the 7:00 bedtime with him because it’s an inconvenience for him that will not be tolerated under any circumstances.

Don’t be fooled by his crocodile tears; the true narcissist doesn’t really need you. Since he is probably charming and engaging, he’ll quickly replace you with a more compliant, adoring substitute.

At this extreme end of the narcissism continuum, you are not going to gain any traction with your clearly argued points or with reason.

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Unless you want to spend your life feeling like a victim and with someone who only sees you as an accuser, it’s time for you to reverse things and free yourself of his manipulative DARVO defenses. Reverse course and run for the hills.


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Written by Judith Titin
Originally appeared on Yourtango
Printed with permission from the author
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Judith Tutinhttp://drjudithtutin.com/
Dr. Judith Tutin is a psychologist and certified life coach who offers life coaching and psychotherapy services to address divorce recovery, relationship stress, parenting challenges, work-life balance issues, health and wellness concerns, and living a happy and fulfilled life. Check out her recently published, The Post-Divorce Survival Guide. Tools for Your Journey, which offers insights about divorce recovery, some personal and others emerging from her years of work with clients. She blogs about the post-divorce experience</a, and about positive psychology
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